By Dr. Dawj
As a follow-up to my recent blog on “good” leaders, I wanted to provide some insight into leadership challenges.
Where there are great people, there are also the ones that posed challenges for us. These are the people on your job, at your church, in your neighborhood, in the program, in your yoga class, at your school, on the team etc., who act as if it is their life’s mission is to give you a hard time.
When you think about it, they kept you on your toes and made you want to press forward harder and with a passion to excel, just because they told you that you couldn’t. If they said you could not do it, you were more determined because you wanted to prove them wrong. Those challenges you faced turned into an opportunity for you to excel.
Who are the people that were or are still in your life that posed challenges for you? Did you know that you can partially thank them for those challenges?
While some challenges may have stopped you dead in your tracks for a moment, you were able to regroup and press forward with a higher level of commitment to achieve your goals.
Let’s say you work at a job where your boss looks at everything you do as wrong. You may be viewed as not grasping how to do tasks, underperforming, lack of leadership, or placed in an “out-group” ( an “out-group” is a place where you could be excluded from functions, meetings, lunches, after-work socializing, team communications, or projects). In your mind you are trying to do your best, but your boss complains about everything. So you try to talk to someone on the team, only to find out they told your boss, and now you are really feeling the wrath of the boss. You try to talk to your boss, but it falls on deaf ears and every turn is a challenge.
This is an example of “bad leadership”.
Another example could be that you are very talented, a great team player and just always shine like a star. You apply for a promotion to a different position, but since your boss feels like you need to be on the team to handle specific tasks, your promotion has been blocked. This is an example of “bad leadership,” since the only reason the boss is not willing to support your promotion is because he/she wants you to do the same job you have always done.
You can also have leadership challenges in your relationships. You may know that you are in a dead-end relationship, but you will not take the initiative to bring yourself out. You are actually posing challenges for yourself in this instance.
I have been in dead-end relationships and I can tell you that it will only kill you slowly on the inside. While you may be in love and feel like you can change the person, the reality is that the only person you can change is yourself. You have to begin to think that you can be in a better place, and then plan a way for you to get there with your sanity.
Here are a few tips to keep in mind when faced with leadership challenges:
- Assess why you are in that situation
- Assess what YOU need to do to make positive change happen
- Be realistic in what you expect from others when it comes to positive change
- Plan a course of action
- Take Action
“Change can only happen when you change your perceptions of your ability to create the change you wish to see!”- Dawgelene Sangster