The Most Powerful Way to Connect to Someone

The Most Powerful Way to Connect to Someone
The most powerful way to connect with someone...

By Kym B.

Listen and silent are spelled with the same letters the Instagram post read and it piqued my curiosity.

To me, this was the perfect anagram. It really hit me how the two words ‘listen’ and ‘silent’ are so closely aligned; they are in precision.

The power of listening, says author Rachel Naomi Remen, is “the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person.”

Trust me, my listening skills need help. And, I’m sure my children would love for me to be silent once in a while. But through this walk I’ve learned that:

Listening and hearing are not the same.

I see a lot of people talking, yet no one is listening. Therefore, the person who was talking was not heard. Seek to understand. Make sure that you have full understanding of the conversation. To be heard is to be understood. That does not necessarily mean to agree; it means that you understand what they have spoken.

Words matter.

The value of words are important to the speaker. Learn to be silent and allow someone to speak. Let their words sit to reassure others that you fully have digested what they have spoken.

Hearing without judgment is a difficult skill.

Especially during this day and age of social media. We have become addicted to give and receive free and unwarranted opinions. Judgment is most damaging when someone tries to assert their voice in a sea of noise and unwanted chatter.

Learn to listen in the now. Purposely slow yourself down.

You will find much learning, joy and sometimes uncomfortable information when you listen – so in turn, you too, can be heard!

Kym B. is an avid world traveler who owns a clothing design boutique with her daughter. Follow her on Twitter@AlwaysRich777

Follow Kym B. on Twitter @AlwaysRich777

Follow Kym B. on Twitter @AlwaysRich777

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