YOU ARE YOUR SISTER
By Devin Miller
Commonly I stray away from male bashing; and today is no exception. Women this message is for you, you are no different from the SIDE CHICK, THE WIFE, THE SINGLE WOMEN, THE FAST GIRLS, THE BRICKHOUSE, THE ATHLETIC CHICK, THE SMART CHICK, THE GIVER CHICK, THE NATURAL HAIR CHICK, THE WEAVE WEARING CHICK, THE CHICK WHO MADE THE BAD CHOICES IN MEN, THE EDUCATED CHICK, THE CHICK THAT WORKS AT MCDONALDS, THE SINGLE MOTHER, OR THE CAREER WOMAN; we are all women, and should take pride in each other’s experiences. We shouldn’t be pitting each other against one another, or feeling somehow superior over someone else. Ego is what continues to divide women (there is no exception based on race, or any creed).
We separate ourselves from each other, rather than unify, and this is a grave mistake. Recently I read an article about some young silly male rapper, whose name does not matter; in which he states that black men have all these role models and black women do not, they have the VH1 shows mirror themselves off of the “Mimi and Joseline” types. He even said that young girls don’t look up to Michelle Obama, Oprah, and those “types” of women. He basically said that black women are hopeless. Obviously, I almost fell out of my chair! I thought his statements were ridiculous, one-sided, and extremely off base. However, here’s what I’ve noticed, men can have whatever opinion they want about us, and believe me they all do, and it seems that we continue to love on them and fawn over them and turn on our fellow sister, just to get one. The rationale is usually, “He’s not talking about me; I’m not that type of woman.”
Do we love and fawn on each other? If a musician writes misogynistic music, do you buy the album? Are we actively supporting our sisters in our efforts? Are we encouraging those women that need encouragement? Unfortunately I can’t say that we are CONSISTENTLY doing this. I do however see on all forms of social media, women being objectified through MEMES, women cursing each other out, (celebrities or everyday women), and basically exhibiting ugly behavior that all of our grandmothers would disapprove of. Even writing this puts me in a position where some woman can say, “Yeah she’s uppity. She thinks she’s better than everyone else.” What is that really? Why do we as women, instantly find a way to discredit one another? There’s no benefit to it whatsoever, and it makes us all look bad. We will never be able to crawl from under men, if we don’t spend time supporting one another or at the bare minimum, hating LESS on each other!
When you spend this time separating yourselves from one another, these men are sleeping/disrespecting/degrading you, AND THEM; because you all aren’t friends, you know nothing about each other, and sometimes it wouldn’t make much difference anyway, because, “These h@e$ ain’t loyal,” right?
Over the past few weeks, I’ve seen the media vilify female victims of domestic violence, drug abused women, and all sorts of women who need help! We need to stop participating in this negativity and stand up for ourselves, because men won’t do it for us.
Chicago's own Devin Miller is a Freelance Writer, Event Coordinator, and Project Manager who has always used creative expression to promote joy and laughter in a world bogged down with serious people, and serious situations. She is a "dreamer and a planner," and truly believes that without both, you should stay asleep. Follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/laura.miller.73997, on Twitter at: @80sbaby_83 and her blog site at http://devinmilleralmost30.blogspot.com/.
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