Attack of the Baby Boys...aka GMB’s (Grown Men Babies):
By Devin Miller
Before I get there, let me start by saying, I am not condemning any individuals who have fell on hard times, or who are putting forth strong effort and not receiving results, this is not for you. Don’t give up, you are awesome. That being said, some of you are related to, in a relationship with, or fit the description of what I like to call the, GROWN MAN BABY.
This is a man, who is at the adult age, but acts as a dependent for a spouse or parent, but they are fully capable of taking care of themselves. To elaborate, the Grown Man Baby doesn’t work but he eats all the food; he doesn’t pay bills, and he doesn’t conserve energy. Instead, the Grown Man Baby shares his manly opinions and walk around the house with his chest stuck out as if the world owes them something.
There is a verse in scripture from 2 Thessalonians 3: 10-13 that states the following:
“"Anyone who will not work will not eat." 11 We hear that some people among you don't want to work. They aren't really busy. Instead, they are bothering others. 12 We belong to the Lord Jesus Christ. So we strongly command people like that to settle down. They have to earn the food they eat. “-NIRV
Some of you already know where I’m going to go with this.
Lately, the GMB’s have increased in population, and they’re not really feeling too bad about it. Sure from time to time, they’re going to behave as if they are frustrated about their employment situation, but this could be a simple act to manipulate their enabler.
Yes I said it, ENABLER. The person that accepts the “minimal goods and services the GMBs provide.” The enabler is being taken advantage of; she thinks things like, if I were in this situation, I wouldn’t want anyone to treat me any differently. He’s dealing with a lot of stress right now; it can’t be easy watching me pay for everything. GAME. THAT IS GAME. Let’s go back to the scripture listed at the beginning; they have to earn the food they eat. EARN. Meaning work, get an education, something that requires some effort.
Since I’m a woman, I don’t know exactly what it entails to be a man, so I asked a few of my male friends for their perspective on what being a man actually means to them.
Generally, the popular consensus of the males I spoke to (ages, 25-50), all believed that men, real men, sacrifice their personal desires for the betterment of their families. They believe that the true essence of a man is to protect their loved ones and support their families financially and emotionally.
To enhance this, my male friends also believe that men should stand firm on their principals, mean what they say, and deliver. Seems like a lot of responsibility to me, but in the end, this is what real men believe for themselves. So we as women can’t dispute it and should not allow men to be anything less.
I also asked women if they would prefer their man not work, rather than to work at McDonalds. The men I spoke to about this question believed that women would prefer the man not work at all, rather than be embarrassed by him working at McDonalds.
Well, men’s perception of women in this instance is wrong, if a man is getting back on his feet from a set back; women appreciate a man who is willing to do whatever is necessarily to help his family (or himself for that matter). This includes working at the golden arches. So for all of you GMB’s end this charade, and be who you were meant to be. Even if no one taught you how to be a man, there is something inherently embedded in your soul that would lead you to know, that under no circumstances, do you live off of a woman.
We need you, help us out!
Stay tuned for the next installment: Are you his mother or his woman? You can’t raise a man!
Chicago's own Devin Miller is a Freelance Writer, Event Coordinator, and Project Manager who has always used creative expression to promote joy and laughter in a world bogged down with serious people, and serious situations. She is a "dreamer and a planner," and truly believes that without both, you should stay asleep. Follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/laura.miller.73997, on Twitter at: @80sbaby_83 and her blog site at http://devinmilleralmost30.blogspot.com/.
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