By Liz Lampkin
A few days ago while browsing on Twitter, I stumbled across a young man’s page, where he posed a question to women: “Ladies would you date a man who worked at McDonald’s?”
Some responses were, “Absolutely not,” “Only if he owned it,” and my personal favorite “If it was his second job.”
I wondered what really matters the most to women, a man’s character or his cash flow? I wondered about this because oftentimes we say we want a man who is compassionate, honest, loving, and selfless, so on and so on, but it seems as though if a man has these and other quality traits, it may not matter if he has a humble paycheck or position at his place of employment.
Why is that ladies? Why does it seem as though we value a man’s finances more than we value his character? The answer is simple: Many women often fail to realize that a man’s cash flow does not define who he is, and if it does, then he must not be much of a man.
Also, a man can have all the money in the world, but if he does not possess wisdom and understanding of what to do with it, then he has no true worth at all. A man’s physical attributes are characteristics are what a lot of women (myself included) focus on; we focus on his style of dress, his coordination, the type of car he drives, his masculine build and even his male anatomy!
While the initial focus may often be a man’s physical make-up it will not help in building a quality relationship that serves a purpose.
It is important for we as women to learn how to look inside of a man, rather than looking at him. How do we do this?
1. The first and most important thing to do is pray and ask God to reveal his character to you, and listen to what is said.
2. Another way you can learn to look inside of a man is to ask him about who he is; not what he does for a living, not where he lives, so on and so on. Ask him questions about his morals, beliefs on certain issues, etc., and listen to his answers… don’t just hear them.
3. Observe his actions and not simply listen to his words. What a man does and how he does it can reveal a lot about him within a matter of minutes.
Looking inside of a man will provide insight into who he truly is, because the reality of a relationship is that you are in a relationship with the man, not his material possessions or what he has to offer.
Ladies, I challenge you today to ask yourself what really matters to you the most, a man’s character or his paycheck, and be honest when asking yourself this question because not only will you see what you truly want in a man, but it will reveal who you truly are as a woman.
Liz Lampkin is a woman of God, educator, speaker, mother, sister, daughter, friend, and encourager living in purpose on purpose. Follow Liz on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin.
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