A Widow’s first Christmas
During the holiday season, many people are scurried about and purchased gifts that plunged them into debt by the thousands. They bought these gifts to satisfy many that probably don’t appreciate them anyway.
I used to be one of those shoppers spending and getting into debt once a year, until I married James.
James was older, conservative and a militant type of guy. While he loved the pretty colors of Christmas, he was NOT into spending money on gifts.
He purchased a few gifts early on in our marriage, but that quickly changed! It took a long time to get used to that mentality during the course of our 13-year marriage, and I don’t think the kids ever got used to it. The kids would complain about him being mean, etc, but I knew that he just did not feel that Christmas was about getting into debt.
James came from very humble beginnings with 10 siblings, so he just did not care much for splurging on tons of gifts, except his camera equipment.
My family, on the other hand, spent loads of money each year during Christmas and most times it was money that we didn’t have, just to buy that cool new toy or jacket.
As I had children, I wanted to change the tradition so I asked the children to make a list of items that they wanted and I would choose from that list (the number of items that I permitted decreased as the children became older of course!)
I would also give them money or tell them we would go after Christmas and buy things. While they gradually began to understand the method to my madness, my family did not and scrutinized me for not “sticking with the traditional way of thinking.”
I now understand that Christmas has a deeper meaning on a spiritual level with Jesus, than money can ever buy.