The breakup wasn’t easy for you.
For him, it seemed as inconsequential as placing a breakfast order. He wants the sweet pancakes and eggs, but not the wake-up cup of commitment.
You wanted more than sweet nothings, so you pushed.
Then he ran.
The harder you pushed, the faster he ran.
Now there’s no race to be won, nothing to work out, or even talk about. There’s no flight left in him, and there’s no hope left in you.
It hardly seems fair that your love investment has moved on, and left you here to pick up the pieces.
It hardly seems fair that he’s already found a new interest while you’re slowly drowning in a torrent of tears.
The pain strikes at the most inconvenient of times, and you will cry alone. You will cry with a friend. You will cry in your car, on the job, or wherever you hear that song--you know the one--that reminds you of him.
Believe it or not, crying is a good thing: 'Crying can help release tension and stress, as well as expressing emotions,' says Dr. Abigael San, chartered clinical psychologist. 'When you're upset and stressed, you have an imbalance and buildup of chemicals in the body and crying helps to reduce that.'
Crying renews you, and wipes the slate clean so that you can begin a new chapter in your life.
Celebrate your singleness. Reinvent yourself starting with this truth: You are one fine catch.
You have a vision, and a purpose, and a love that is meant to be shared with only the best.
Make a promise that, next time around, you won’t lose yourself in him. You won’t deny your needs and dreams all in an effort to “have a man around.”
Remind yourself that you are a complete person worthy of good love and all the good things that good love has to offer.