by Yolanda "Yanni" Brown
I love the amazing conversations that I have with my mom. She’s a no-holds-barred kind of conversationalist and she delivers each and every time.
I’ve been really frustrated lately about some things lately and like always, I can go to my mom without criticism or hearing "I told you so." She simply says “Make life easier for yourself! Stop struggling with everything! Make YOUR situation the best situation for you! In the moment! Not tomorrow, but in the moment.”
She then says: “Everything is not to be wrestled with. Let it go, and make the best of what you have. All you have to do is look over your shoulder and realize just how blessed you really are."
As always, my mom is right. I’m not all that I should be and I’m not all that I could be. However, I have plenty of things that I am thankful for.
Sometimes we make our situations worse than they are or we will sit and stew in them and invite others to our pity party, creating Facebook invites.
There is nothing wrong with being in a place of frustration of in the moment of "what’s next." These places of confusion bring you back to a state of humbleness. Move beyond and create your own "what’s next" by making the best of your current situation.
You may not have control of what’s happening to you but you most certainly have control over how you react to it!
What I learned from my mom is there are some key people to have in your corner:
- Friends who will listen without judging or trying to project their situation into your situation.
- Friends who will allow you to have your moment, but will not allow you to stay there. They will challenge you by coming up with possible solutions or get you to thinking about possible solutions.
- Friends who will hold you accountable to the standard that you’ve set for yourself and will call you on your crap when it rears its ugly head.
- Friends who are willing to help you in your time of need.
- Friends who will lend you their shoulder to cry on and are willing to kick butt if anyone gets out of line.
My mom has always been all of those things to me. She’s my mom, but she’s also my best friend. I can go to her in my proudest moments, or when I’ve made a complete fool of myself. Even whe she's not feeling her best, she is the best mother to me.
I only hope that I’ve grown into half of the woman that she is and that I’m able to give half of what she’s given to me.
What pearls of wisdom has your mom imparted on you? Because my mom, Katie Brown, rocks!