On Sunday, Six Black Men and the Six Brown Chicks had the pleasure of sitting down twogether to engage in a thought-provoking conversation on love, life and relationships at the Black Women’s Expo.
While there were several topics and comments that stood out to me, there was one in particular that I thought that I should write about. Thanks to Stephanie Green of Soleil's-To-Dos and her tweets I was able to go back and capture the moment.
“Who cares about all of the reasons that you're bitter, it's just the fact that you are. Fix it! Then come back later.”
WOW Really? The bigger question, in my opinion, is why are women bitter?
It’s easy to say fix it but if you are not equipped with the tools needed to fix it, then how are you supposed to do that?
I explained in my rebuttal that the person who has done the deed so to speak will often ask for forgiveness and then expect that forgiveness to be instantaneous. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. It takes work to get over the reasons, forgive, rebuild from a previous or past hurt.
So when someone says get over it…. LET THEM! Part of the reason that we carry bitter baggage or residue of past hurts and pain is because we are not given the time to grieve them, or as the panelist said, “Get over it!”
We are expected to move on. So rather than dwell on the thought that we should get over it, my blog today is more of a question, that is, what I also asked my fellow panelist: HOW do WE get over it?
Where does the repair and road back to healing begin? What are some things that have worked for you? I know what works for me, but I would love to hear from men and women…. How do you “Get over it, Fix it?”
By the way, I care!
When it’s all said and done WE need each other to survive. We can love and survive when we fully understand that WE can care more and hurt one another less….