Relax, will you! and more unsolicited advice

How many times have you heard “just relax”, you’d get pregnant if would just relax!  Or take a vacation, or take a break, or you should stop running, everyone trys to play “doctor” - ugh the list of “advice” can go on and on…

Infertility is a diagnosable medical problem that must be treated by a doctor.  Relaxation itself does not cure medical infertility (if only it was that easy).

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I remember when I was going through infertility treatments the worst thing wasn’t hearing about a friend becoming pregnant or seeing a baby announcement in the mail – I was happy for them – it was all the unsolicited advice from people who had no clue what I was going through!

I now realize it is very similar to the random advice you get while pregnant, and while being a mom.  If I had a buck for every random tidbit of advice I’ve received while at the grocery store, or waiting in line at a coffee shop, I’d be RICH RICH RICH!

What’s the BEST thing you can do to support a loved one going through infertility or any life struggle? – BE THERE FOR THEM!  Let them know you care, that you support their decisions, and let them decide when to update you on their progress.

Sometimes all someone wants is to have their feelings be validated.  Like “I know this sucks right now, but I am here for you, and you will get through this!  You are strong!”


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    There must be some scientific study that everyone that is relaxed gets pregnant. How else would EVERYONE know this simple trick. I think in this same study they found that men going on a relaxing vacation will even get pregnant. Similarly, stressed people never get pregnant...nor are people ever stressed during pregnancy.

    Anyway, great article. I couldn't agree with you more!

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