1.) Pessimism/ Bringing yourself down/ Negative thinking/ Automatically thinking negatively about things/ Comparing yourself to others
We doubt ourselves, our own abilities, or the situation that is presented to us, because it is almost always not in our favor. It is easier said than done, but try to remain positive. Everything in life happens for a reason and perhaps right now was not your time. So when is it your time? That is remain to be seen, but if you keep pushing forward with a positive mindset, attitude and outlook, then anything can happen.
2.) Toxic relationships/ Tolerating people that drain your energy, lie, and refuse to reciprocate
This may be a hard one to defuse, because the toxic people in your surrounding maybe a co-worker, a significant other, a family member, a friend or someone who you see in your daily or weekly life. The simplest thing you could do, if it is unavoidable, is to keep your distance by reducing your presence and/ or communication with the person in question as much as you possibly can. While it may hurt to cut off certain loved ones, it is beneficial for your health in the long run. For everyone else outside of the circle, just ignore them, because they are simply not the matters of your heart.
3.) Lack of self-care/ Not making yourself a priority/
Putting others before yourself too much/ Over-scheduling/ Not getting enough sleep/ Not drinking enough water/ Not eating enough healthy food
It is more than perfectly fine to say “No”, especially when your time is just as important as the person who is asking. Stock piling unnecessary workload to the point where you have no time for yourself to rest is detrimental and not conducive to a good overall health.
Your health and well-being are important first and foremost. If you cannot take care of yourself, then chances are, you would not be able to take care of your daily tasks or helping others to the very best of your abilities, especially if you are bed-ridden with a sickness. Taking care of your health is not just emotional, mental and spiritual, but it is also physical too, which includes exercising and eating healthy. To start with, get adequate amount of the recommended hours of sleep and drink plenty of water.
By the way, in case you did not know, exercise is not just hitting the gym or performing physical activities like jump roping, dancing, tennis, swimming, etc. It also includes grocery shopping, cooking, vacuuming, gardening, shoveling snow, washing your car, among other chores.
4.) Dwelling in the past/ Past grudges
We all have a past we are ashamed of, not proud of or will not let go of for whatever reason, but it does not mean you cannot change your present and future self. Your actions may not be forgiven and forgotten by others or vice versa, and it is okay as long as you are continuing to unapologetically strive to be the best version of yourself.
Overthinking is quite naturally the art of creating problems that aren’t even there. Stressing yourself over situations that may or may not happen is not productive in any sense whatsoever. Instead of worrying about the future since it is a mystery to all of us to begin with, slowly breathe in and breathe out and remind yourself that you are in the present.
6.) Not saving money/ Spending recklessly/ Over-spending
While tomorrow is never promised to anyone, it does not mean that you should recklessly spend all of your hard earned money on non-essentials every time you receive your paycheck. Spend money wisely on things you need versus things you want by budgeting your cashflow. There is simply nothing wrong with saving money for retirement, for a rainy day and for emergencies.
7.) Lack of discipline/ Procrastination/ Inactivity
Parenting yourself to do tasks you very well know that you must take care of is daunting at times, because you would rather relax comfortably in place for a long period of time. However, those tasks in the back of your mind will constantly remind you that they are waiting in queue and eventually, you will have no other choice, but to complete your task checklist. Make a conscious effort to get things done when they are supposed to get done rather than waiting until the last minute, because by doing so, you will have time to do the things you want to do.
8.) Not planning/ Not being organized
Sure, sometimes life does not go as planned, but it should not deter you from planning and organizing a certain aspect of your life. You can write different types of plans (weekly, fitness, financial, etc.) or lists (grocery, to-do, goals, etc.) that directly correlates to your daily life. Start with this article and then expand on your ideas further by Googling other people’s ideas that you can be add to your own. What is more important than anything is that you follow through with your plans or list you made, because otherwise, you would have wasted time that you will never get back.