The Harambe gorilla incident made me decide to leash my toddler

The Harambe gorilla incident made me decide to leash my toddler
The rumblings slowly came up on Facebook. Memes of a random gorilla, outrage about a nonsense killing. Something involving a kid. What the heck happened, I wondered? If you know me, I generally try to skip past upsetting news because I feel too much empathy to try to shock my system with empathy-inducing stories. Especially... Read more »

#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou

#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but says something that hurts you, and says it’s a joke, don’t you have a sense of humor? #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but forbids you from going to Walmart, playgrounds, the grocery store near your home #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou but gaslights and pretends he never said/did something, and that you’re the crazy one This hashtag is trending on Twitter,... Read more »

Dear Mom, what if?

Dear Mom, what if?
Dear Mom, It’s my second Mother’s Day without you. As my daughter grows, I keep wondering what if? Before you start hoping, I will not let my daughter around dad. Never. I do not want her to think it is okay to belittle people, to put them down verbally. I do not want her to... Read more »
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Homeschool diploma flap: do they really need a GED?

The headline caught my eye. I mean, why wouldn’t it? Christian homeschoolers cry discrimination after trade schools ask for proof they learned something I laugh-snorted while reading it. The laugh was a little bit because the headline was spot on with HSLDA’s sense of entitlement, and a little bit out of sadness because there are... Read more »

Ten reasons why toddlers are cats

 They love string. Anything that looks like string. Her current favorite thing to do is to bat at the straps on the bus or train.
My toddler is like a cat. That makes cat #4. Am I officially a crazy cat lady?

Food, weight, anxiety, depression, control...acceptance?

Food, weight, anxiety, depression, control...acceptance?
Food. Where do I begin? Food is punishment, and food is reward. Food soothes, and food stokes anxiety. Food is a means of control when life is out of control. I’ve always been a bit of an odd duck when it comes to food, avoiding certain types of foods and certain types of places to... Read more »
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If I hadn't said so, you wouldn't know I'm having anxiety

As I write this, I am battling an anxiety attack. You wouldn’t know it, looking at me. You wouldn’t know unless I told you so. That’s part of the problem. I can’t always say so. Not at work, for fear of unconscious biases or people who just don’t understand. Not always to my husband, though... Read more »

Grieving the mother I thought I had

Grieving the mother I thought I had
“A mother has the moral and legal obligation to shield her children from abuse.” -Virginia Knowles, “Five Things Homeschool Moms Should Know About Abusive Marriages.” But what happens when your mom doesn’t? It’s not exactly earth-shattering, because on some level I probably already knew this, kind of, sort of, but it still hit like a... Read more »

What life really is like for children of toxic parents

So, this article was shared in a group online, and I read it, curious. OMG, it is SO harmful. It does a real disservice to what life is really like for children with toxic, abusive parents.. Let’s begin at the beginning. The beginning was spot on–it is absolutely frightening to think about children’s natural emotions... Read more »
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Woodworking in an apartment

This is the spot underneath the loft bed in the living room/dining room/office. This will be LO's bedroom in the future, but look at it. Gah. It got worse after trying to measure things and see what would fit where.
It’s that time of year again for home improvement. After being cooped up inside all winter, I have a list of all of the things I need to do in the apartment to create space out of nothing. (Vertical space! Walls! Hidden areas that can become storage!) Alas, we have a gazillion medical bills already... Read more »