Have you been good to yourself today?

Have you been good to yourself today?
Or, what acts of self-kindness have you done today? It’s really hard for me to practice self-compassion. It just seems….self-ish. But, honest to God, it means being a better mother, a better wife, a better employee. You can’t pour from an empty cup. You’ve got to fill it up with self-compassion before you can expend... Read more »

I went to my first Alcoholics Anonymous meeting today

I went to my first Alcoholics Anonymous meeting today
I’m skeptical of Alcoholics Anonymous, and of 12-step programs in general. I’ve read the research that it’s not as effective as some people make it out to be (which is a kind way of saying that it’s bad science.) Mindful of this, I still went, on the urging of my husband and therapist. I was... Read more »

What do you do when depression affects work?

When you have the flu, you stay home for a few days. Stomach bug, you stay home that day. Maybe the day after. Migraine or some other intermittent issue–you take a few hours off, at least. Just until you can mostly function again. (These are all assuming you have sick/vacation time from your employer. We’re... Read more »
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Cookies for Dinner

Cookies for Dinner
I had a few moments of clarity today, where depression was pushed far enough to the side that it felt like I was wearing snow boots in moderate snow. It doesn’t feel nearly as burdensome as concrete overshoes, so with the newfound energy, I went to the store to get more root beer, ice cream,... Read more »

Drunk Mommy, Sober Mommy

Drunk Mommy, Sober Mommy
Having a child made me an alcoholic. Or perhaps more accurately, postpartum anxiety and depression made me an alcoholic. After my daughter was born, I could barely eat. I couldn’t sleep for days. It felt like my entire being was vibrating with anxiety pulsating through my veins. I thought it was normal, and would go... Read more »

If you're deaf, you shouldn't sit in the exit row on a plane

I saw this in my Facebook feed today. If you can’t see it, it is a woman signing her story about sitting in an exit row (seats picked out by her father). When the flight attendant came by and talked rather quickly about what being in the exit row entails, she asked him to slow... Read more »
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Dear hotels: Your "hearing accessible" room was not hearing accessible

As you might guess from my last post, I was away at a conference recently (aka, vacation paid for by my employer, aka, it’s not really a vacation because I didn’t even have time to go for a swim in one of TWO POOLS. OR THE LAZY RIVER. Sad face.) When I booked the hotel... Read more »

Stages of going to a conference

When you find out you get to go to a conference and it's like your company is paying for a vacation
I’m conferencing right now, and I am so ready to go home after such an information overload and really want to go back to my family and hug my daughter forever and ever (if she’s not on the iPad). It’s been great and all, but it’s time for me to go…

I thought it would get easier being No Contact

It is easier in some ways. After 8 years, I’d hope it’d be. I don’t cry nearly as often. At a certain point, the tears fade away, and the heart’s gasps of pain subside, until they no longer fill every single waking day. But certain days, like a old knee when a storm is brewing,... Read more »
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Sick

I’m already slightly awake when I feel little hands on my side. This is my daughter’s way of waking me up. I’m standing in the doorway to my parents’ bedroom, ambivalent. Do I wake Mom up? Am I sick enough to wake her up, or will I make Dad mad? I reach over to pull... Read more »