How to survive the inaugural events while at work

Today is a difficult day for many of us. More difficult for those who have first hand experiences with the abuses narcissists dish out. It’s very hard to see someone abusive become president, someone who is triggering, looming large on every TV and every news story and every social media page. I know I am... Read more »

Yes, pro-life people can take part in the Women's March

Yes, pro-life people can take part in the Women's March
Yes, pro-life people can take part in the Women’s March on Saturday. In fact, you should take part. Let the world know that the feminism is not a monolith. If feminism includes Femen, it can include us. Yes, I know one of their “Unity Principles” is reproductive freedom, which is the antithesis to the pro-life... Read more »

I'm fine

When I say “I’m fine,” it usually means “I am not fine but I don’t know how to say that without coming across as socially awkward.” Behind every “I’m fine” are hundreds of thoughts, like birds, tiny little dots rushing, halting, turning, flying, diving, soaring, silhouetted against a twilight sky. Every “I’m fine” means “I... Read more »
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What was broken is repaired is broken

Over the years, my family would make friends, and then shut them out. As a result, my childhood photos would contain people I barely remember, for only a certain span of years, before they just stopped showing up in photos. Of course, people will fade as friends when you move 8 hours away. (Or more,... Read more »

Waiting for the call-back: an anxious perspective

When people say, “I’ll let you know next week,” you take it to mean 9am of the very next working day, and when that doesn’t happen, anxiety starts chasing its tail and spinning, just waiting for someone to show up with news because it’s so difficult to focus without news. And then you hope that... Read more »

How do you know if you are married to the right person?

How do you know if you are married to the right person?
How do you know if you’re married to the right person? There is no short answer, unlike what the picture suggests. The image was shared from the Above Rubies Facebook page, and asdfjklasdfjkl…. Sorry. I had to stop myself, because this post is not about Above Rubies and the issues I have with it. Deep... Read more »
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Gain two sizes in two months? You'll never believe this 1 weird trick!

Gain two sizes in two months? You'll never believe this 1 weird trick!
Cue a bad gif of someone jiggling their belly fat. Or sometimes it’s a dancing banana. Just something that FORCES you to look at it. And get curious about what the heck that one weird trick is. (Spoiler alert: there is no weird trick.) In this case, though, there is one not-so-weird trick. It’s very... Read more »

I was brave today

When you are a ChicagoNow blogger, one thing you’ll know is that we have blatherings. blathering (n.) A portmanteau of “blog gathering,” or a lighthearted gathering of bloggers in one place, often accompanied by food. The last one was cold. Cold cold cold. It was one of those nights where the windchills were -30, and... Read more »

Thank you, Carrie Fisher, for making me feel better about mental illness, weight gain, and motherhood

Thank you, Carrie Fisher, for making me feel better about mental illness, weight gain, and motherhood
Dear Carrie Fisher, Thank you for shutting down the haters who criticized your appearance in Star Wars VII. It meant that others dig up a quote from one of your books that helped me feel better. “What I didn’t realize, back when I was this twenty-five-year-old pinup for geeks in that me myself and iconic... Read more »
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Why small apartments are great (and why they also suck)

Vacuuming takes all of 1 minute. When I grew up in a bigger house it took approximately 1 hour including stairs.
I live in 725 square feet of living space with a balcony that’s about half as big as my living room/dining room/spare bedroom/office/play room. Wait, what? That’s what happens when you live in a small apartment. It’s nice. It also sucks. Some day when we win the lottery or both work $80K jobs, then we... Read more »