Today is a difficult day for many of us. More difficult for those who have first hand experiences with the abuses narcissists dish out.
It's very hard to see someone abusive become president, someone who is triggering, looming large on every TV and every news story and every social media page. I know I am contributing to that, but it is for a good reason.
We need tips to survive the day, especially when we need to be productive at work. I use these tips for my more difficult days, in general.
- Count down the days in increments. 5 minutes. 15 minutes. 30 minutes. Whatever works for you.
- Give yourself a reward at the end of each increment. After 30 minutes, I will look at pictures of puppies. After 30 more minutes, I am going to go for a walk.
- Move around. Depending on your work, make an excuse to walk the building to look for things that need to be fixed. Walk to the other side of the floor to the kitchen and get a snack. Walk to another floor to see a colleague and ask a question in person, just to say hi.
- Bathroom breaks are excellent for decompressing, especially if you work with the public. Let the heaviest sigh out. All the toxic emotions. All the fears.
- Grounding. 5-4-3-2-1. See 5 things. Hear 4 things. Touch 3 things. Smell 2 things. Taste 1 thing. Push your feet hard into the ground--feel its presence. You are here, you are safe.
- Reach out to a friend. Share something funny or cute. Ask for the same in return.
- Stand up. Stretch. Shake out the limbs.
- Write or doodle. Something creative. Post-its are excellent for a quick doodle. Creativity connects both sides of the brain.
- Save the mindless tasks for when you feel you can't do anything else--you can still do that. For me, that task is data entry.
What else do you plan to do to help yourself through this difficult day?
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