Archive for January 2013

What not to do when someone tells you they have depression

I check my dad’s websites once in a while to see if anything’s changed. He’s pretty good at glossing over the fact that he disowned me by simply not talking about any of us kids. For someone who talks about running a family, homeschooling, and even a bit of “motivational” stuff, he failed at following... Read more »

Dear person who hacked my iTunes account

Dear person who hacked my iTunes account, I sincerely hope you enjoy listening to classical music and a healthy dose of Dan Schutte, Marty Haugen, and a variety of organ music and hymns. Sure, I have a little bit of Simon and Garfunkel on there, but it’s probably not what you were expecting when you... Read more »

A warm cat bed for the winter - a Caturday story

Dear neighbor downstairs, Thank you for leaving your bathroom heater on all day. I’m not being sarcastic. Seriously, thank you. I know when we first encountered your tendency to leave your bathroom warmer thingy on, it a) actually made it too hot to walk in the bathroom with bare feet on bare tile, and b)... Read more »
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Is it okay to still be angry at an abuser?

“Anger will eat you up.” “Just move on.” I still hear advice like this periodically. Not often, and not by my therapist, but periodically. It pretty much comes across as, “Geez, just get over it. Aren’t you healed yet?” I wrote a post about “Forgiving an abusive parent“  in April of last year–it seems so... Read more »

A purring cat solves all problems - a Caturday story

Cats know when you’re sad, stressed, overwhelmed, angry, or depressed. Sometimes they don’t care and will keep on meowing just to annoy you further. This is their way of teaching us how to learn how to tolerate additional stresses, kind of like military training. Sometimes they do care. When we don’t want to be touched,... Read more »

The Apostle Paul was an asshole

The Apostle Paul was an asshole
Don’t you wish some Bible passages came with disclaimers and warnings? “…And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be sensible, chaste, domestic, kind, and submissive to their husbands, that the word of God may not be discredited.” Titus 2:4-5* *WARNING: The misuse of this Bible passage could cause husbands... Read more »
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Why did you let him abuse us, Mom?

Why did you let him abuse us, Mom?
Mom. Mom, WAKE UP. Please. For all our sakes. If not for me, for the four little ones. Listen. You are sacrificing the psychological and emotional well-being of your children–your children– in favor of always smoothing things over with him. Of placating, pacifying him. Of trying, vainly, futilely, of keeping the peace. That’s how you... Read more »

My cat thinks I'm a dunce - a Caturday story

My cat thinks I'm a dunce - a Caturday story
This. This mouse is the only toy he will play with by himself. No other type of mice will work except this one. With the fuzzy body and the leathery tail, I frequently scour Petco for this particular kind of mouse. And this mouse is the star of this Caturday story. My cat, Joseph (Joe),... Read more »

Game of Thrones: Abuse, abuse, and more abuse, oh my!

Game of Thrones: Abuse, abuse, and more abuse, oh my!
I have been pondering off and on about whether I want to read George R.R. Martin’s A Song of Fire and Ice series, or not. I’m picky about what I read,  I appreciate a good fantasy, and it seems like he has woven a tale as complex as The Lord of the Rings. In fact,... Read more »
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Left behind in the Great Baby Race

Left behind in the Great Baby Race
It seems like every time I check Facebook, old classmates from high school and college are announcing their pregnancies. But we’re so young! They can’t be having babies. Not yet. What about their careers? Don’t they want to go on trips, hassle-free? Shouldn’t they spend more time developing their marriage and relationship before going on... Read more »