22 Ways To Keep A Marriage Intact. Observations for newly- (and not so newly) weds.

22 Ways To Keep A Marriage Intact. Observations for newly- (and not so newly) weds.

Last week was my 22nd wedding anniversary. Twenty-two years ago I married a 22-year-old man-child, a term I jokingly use because I “robbed the cradle”: Mike was (and still is) four months younger than me. Our combined ages then (22 + 23) equal my age today (45). Multiply that number by two (90), and you’ll have the humidity index the day we tied the knot. At 23, I sealed my commitment with a kiss in the church while, outside, lines of refracted heat and light waved up and around our idling limousine, its air conditioner blasting and the driver ready to take us to our reception. Back then, I was focused on the immediate details of the wedding and far less so on those of the future.

Reflecting on these past 22 years, I recognize that everyone rides different waves at different times. Our courses in life are complicated and unique, and – unlike those simple calculations above – there’s no secret formula for a long or successful marriage. All I can offer are 22 lessons I’ve learned along the way:

Click here to read the entire column, originally published on Patch.com.


Marriage takes a lot of work, right? What else would you add to the list? What's the best advice for newlyweds? Please add your thoughts in the comments section below.

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