Category: Life lessons

Purpose ≠ cause (ongoing topic)

Following a post titled “Busy but still missing a purpose” two weeks ago, I’ve been pondering the topic and decided to share some thoughts that might be helpful to others as well. This post isn’t going to wrap up with a tidy conclusion; indeed, there may be future posts that contradict it. The search for... Read more »

Busy but still missing a purpose

Nancy Pelosi is 79, Bernie Sanders 77, Joe Biden 76, and Donald Trump almost 73 — all older than I. There has been plenty of commentary already about whether they’re too old for the jobs they have or want, and this isn’t going to be another one. If seventysomethings have the energy, more power to... Read more »

Trendy vs. tried and true

Game of Thrones sure is in our faces as its final season begins. Whether it’s the greatest television show of all times, I couldn’t judge. I haven’t seen a single episode. I never was good at keeping up with what TV shows are in. ER was several seasons along before I became a fan. Neither... Read more »
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The difficult task of sentimental decluttering

Other than Donald Trump and Nancy Pelosi, the person whose name it seems we’re hearing the most at the start of 2019 is Marie Kondo, author of The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up and focus of a new Netflix series. Netflix’s Tidying Up with Marie Kondo began this month, inspiring people who made new... Read more »

Don't tidy your place for me

For the last few of my building’s monthly game nights, only two of us showed up. Before he moved out of town in mid-December, my game-playing partner invited me to his apartment for a meal and a last game of Scrabble. The invitation for that evening was issued spontaneously during his workday, so he had... Read more »

Intrusiveness vs. showing interest: how to ask questions

In the December issue of Chicago magazine there’s a short piece on how to make small talk at parties. Anne Libera, director of comedy studies at Columbia College, suggests asking, “What’s the weirdest food your family eats on a regular basis?” or “Tell me about the most exciting thing you ever did as a teenager.”... Read more »
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Having an undecorated Christmas

Having an undecorated Christmas
December 18, the calendar says. Only a week until Christmas, and I haven’t put up any decorations. I may not.  Has a bah-humbug attitude overtaken me?  I don’t think so. I’ve happily gone to the Chicago Greeter and my building’s holiday parties. I eagerly read the cards that are arriving and will email holiday notes... Read more »

Before moving on from the big 70 . . .

Since the last two posts were about turning 70, maybe I’ve milked the topic ad nauseam. But those posts mostly reprinted other people’s thoughts, and now that the big birthday is past, my own feelings are clearer. * Friends and family made it one of my best birthdays ever. The wishes via text, email, phone,... Read more »

Other people's thoughts on turning 70

I wasn’t going to pressure myself to write a post on my milestone birthday, but while waiting to get together with friends this afternoon and evening, I felt that reading others’ thoughts about turning 70 would help me. Thanks to the fellow septuagenarians quoted here — not just for their wisdom but also for making this an... Read more »
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With the big 70 coming up

My 70th birthday, coming up next week, presents an obvious topic for a post. But I keep putting off exploring my feelings about it, which may indicate how I feel. So, instead of naval-gazing, I’m reacting to pertinent recent newspaper pieces and a book. An Associated Press story reported that a 69-year-old Dutch positivity guru has asked... Read more »