Posts in category "Life lessons"

Routines: good or bad? It depends.

My favorite daily routine since I retired begins a few minutes after waking up. I eat breakfast, make a pot of tea, and settle into my reading chair with the Chicago Tribune. Lizzy, my cat, usually climbs into my lap. The next hour, give or take, is splendid. The routine was disrupted a week ago... Read more »

Telling people what they don’t want to hear

My niece Ashley recently made her college choice after a long, uncertain process. She’s going to Miami of Ohio, a public university about 45 minutes northwest of Cincinnati and two hours from her suburban Indianapolis home. I first learned about Miami when Ashley’s sister was looking at colleges and liked it immediately. One of the... Read more »

I never joined Facebook

Unlike the estimated 58 percent of American adults with an account, I never joined Facebook. I can’t claim, however, to have expected that users’ data would be misappropriated. I just didn’t want to bother. Some friends urged me to join so that we could stay up on one another’s lives. One said flat out that... Read more »
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A Meetup group that didn’t fly, and more about meeting people

When you move, whether it’s across the country or across town, you confront the need to make new friends close to where you live. This month marks five years since I moved from Edgewater to the South Loop, and while I’ve made friends nearby, most of my friends are still on the North Side. Last... Read more »

Thoughts on Lenten resolutions

“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them,” the deacon read in the Gospel on Ash Wednesday, the start of Lent. I’ve been struggling about how to share some thoughts about Lenten resolutions without disclosing what I’m doing. Mea culpa if this post hints at my Lenten... Read more »

Realizations and a resolution result from friend’s ghosting

It’s been more than a year since I was ghosted by a very close friend, someone I’d been friends with for 20 years. I’m still not over it. If you don’t know what the term “ghosted” means, neither did I until reading it in Amy Dickinson’s advice column in the Chicago Tribune. But I certainly... Read more »
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It took a while before blogging became a passion

This is my 100th post on ChicagoNow. At some point during the year and a half I’ve been writing this blog, it dawned on me that I’m not having to motivate myself to produce a post. That I’m going through my days being alert for experiences and observations that might grow into a post. An... Read more »

Making friends in a new location

My niece is a freshman at Indiana University, and like most freshmen, Alex wants to make new friends. While many people from her hometown chose IU, none of her best friends did — and besides, she wants to branch out. Alex said she’s met a lot of nice people, people she has gone out with,... Read more »

The risky business of walking

I fear it’s only a matter of time before I’m in a traffic accident. As a pedestrian. Since reading recently about a rise in pedestrian fatalities locally and nationally, I’ve been noticing hazards more when I step outside in downtown Chicago. At intersections, especially those with left-turn arrows for drivers, assuming a walk sign means... Read more »
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Significance in Brooks column about class “signifiers”

Last week New York Times columnist David Brooks wrote about how the upper class perpetuates privilege for its children through “cultural signifiers . . . that are completely illegible unless you happen to have grown up in this class.” A firestorm of comments erupted on Twitter and in Times responses, with many bashing Brooks and... Read more »