Advice to my former self

On occasion, when my friends and I are hanging out, sharing endless bottles of wine and bitching about how our bodies are slowly falling apart, we ask ourselves: if we could go back in time 20 years when we were full of curiosity and endless energy, would we do it?

My answer is always the same. HELL NO!

As a kid, I thought 42 was ancient. But now that I’m here, I think I’m doing a hell of a fine job slowly sliding to middle age. And look damn fine doing it. The beauty of growing older is the wisdom that comes with it. At 22, I thought I knew everything. At 42 I realize how naive I really was.

But if I had the chance to sit my younger self down, I would share the following advice.

*You don’t always have to follow everyone else. Do your own thing!

*Don’t be afraid to speak your opinion, people will respect you more for it.

*Go out more and have fun, don’t always be ‘safe’.

*You don’t have to put up with being treated or talked to negatively. You deserve better than that.

*Karma is a wonderful thing. It does work. So be good! The rest will be taken care of.

*Don’t be so easily distracted with love. Take care of *you* first.

*Remember those girls you use to envy in high school? Yea, they’re all now 300 pounds with 7 kids and 6 former husbands. Don’t waste your time.

*Enjoy the time you have. Because it will be taken away quicker than you realize.

*Don’t be so trusting of everyone. Some people are not as honest as they seem.

*Don’t drink more than your body weight. You will pay for it in the morning.

*Pick up the phone more often and tell your loved ones how much you appreciate them.

*Don’t ever doubt yourself. Trust your instincts.

*Go get that massage or manicure. Do whatever makes you feel pretty.

*In a couple of years, a traumatic event will take place regarding your current love. When it does, 2 words of advice – fight harder. This will all make sense when the time comes.

*You will get hurt. You will cry. You will have moments where you feel your world is coming to an end. But don’t ever give up faith. No matter how bad it gets, it will get better.

*Always remember that you are smarter, stronger and more beautiful than you will ever realize.

With that final thought, I’d probably shoo myself away with a smack on the ass. Then buy myself the most amazing glass of wine I’ve never yet tasted.

What would you say to your younger self? Connect with me on facebook or twitter and let me know!

And for those wondering, I will be back tomorrow with Day 25 of my sex challenge. 

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