Please forgive my absence. I have been going through a lot of challenges in my family life. One of them involves my youngest grandson, who I have not seen since his 4th birthday party in early February, which was held in my home.
Because of a disagreement between his parents, the mother vowed never to let any of us - including his Dad, see the boy again. Parental alienation is what experts call it. Let me just say, it wasn't because of lack of child support. Or ill treatment. Our grandson was treated with love by the entire family. If lawyers weren't so expensive, this would be nipped in the bud - maybe.
Being grandparents, my husband and I have no say so in the matter. We shared responsibility along with our son in taking care of our youngest every Sunday while his mother worked into the night. We did this gladly with no complaints. The mother's abrupt decision came as a shock.
This isn't the first time she's done this. Because of a past disagreement, she kept the boy away for almost a year. When our grandson did return to us, we were strangers to him. It took time for him to know us again. Now here we go again.
Are you that parent who withholds her children out of spite? Do you withhold contact information? Say bad things about the other parent? Allow an emotionally distraught child to choose whether or not to see the other parent? Decisions like that made out of hurt is not fair to the other parent. This is parental alienation. It is a a cruel and selfish punishment that has no positive outcome - especially for your child.
As a grandparent, I too am damaged emotionally. But I have no rights. I wondered how could I counsel other parents about raising their kids well when hell was being raised in my own family.
So I stopped writing.
I'm lifted by the fact that we just had our oldest grandson who is six, visit us from out of town. He couldn't understand why he wasn't able to see his little brother. A grandson who is far away...another who might as well be... No, this situation is not ideal. But it is what it is.
However I have a strong faith. It is written, all things work together for good. My oldest grandson inspired me to continue writing this blog. So here I am.
Through prayer and reflection, things will work out. Once I receive my breakthrough, I will share it with you. In the meantime, please share your story with me. Have you ever experienced parental or grandparental alienation? Ever practiced it? No judgments. Just wisdom, solutions and healing.
Thanks for reading.