What's Your Excuse? The Hot Mom Controversy

What's Your Excuse? The Hot Mom Controversy

California fitness loving mom of 3, Maria Kang, posted a picture on her website www.mariakang.com which has sparked up quite the controversy!  Maria, who owns a residential care home for the elderly as well as founded the non-profit organization, Fitness without Borders, is showing off her hot bod with her kiddies on front of her. "What's your excuse?" is the tagline.

At first I was confused as to why this woman was straddling her young children, which made me click her link in the first place after it went absolutely APE SHIT VIRAL. The photo has reached over 16 million views on Facebook and 17k comments, some deeming the photo inspiring, while others are downright offended. The people responding negatively have gone so far as calling her a "fat shaming bully."


" Looks to me like thats unhealthy, always in the gym."

"She's clearly a bad mom."

"Poor example for her kids, self centered."

"It's different because she's Asian."

"Right... I'm sure she has a nanny doing all the work while she works out all day."

“You are part of the body shaming problem that is going on in North America and other parts of the world,”


What's your excuse? Apparently too many to list.

The mere fact that people are taking this as a personal attack on them shows all. The haters that are "appalled" by this photo have some issues within themselves, not with her. If you are a "real woman, with curves and proud and don't need to look like this." Then cool! Don't! If you were truly content with yourself though then I don't think you'd be trolling her photos and website pointing fingers every which way of what she's accomplished is so "wrong."

She never said, " YOU MUST LOOK LIKE ME!" She simply said, "Whats Your Excuse?" meaning motherhood doesn't have to rid you from taking care and feeling good about yourself, it's possible to achieve what you think you cannot! We all have the same 24 hours. The comments that claim Maria lives at the gym are false, she's not shucking an entire field of corn for 40 hours, she's popping some cardio and weights for an hour at most each day. Other comments berating her on how she raises her children and lives her life are just unnecessary as well. Why is that a crime and why is there judging about the way she does things?

People that are offended should probably never watch TV/ read a magazine/ see a bus stop because I see advertising like that every day. And I love it. This type of advertising is the core of Gatorade, Adidias, Nike, etc. campaigns, are those wildly offensive as well? Don't watch this (epic) Nike ad, "My Better is Better Than Your Better" then. You'll probably croak.

If you're truly "hurt" with this image, you need to find a pair of big kid pants, quick. It's people like these that are the reason coaches are getting calls and complaints from parents because their kid is on the B team/alternate/on the bench and the parent thinks they deserve to play/perform because that's what's "fair." Also the reason every kid is getting a big ass trophy when they should be getting a participation ribbon. NEWSFLASH the worlds not fair, I thought we established this by now, but if we work hard, we will get results. Simple. This woman worked hard for her body, she can flaunt it.


Facebook comments I found interesting:

"Instead of bullying women by flaunting your body and asking "What's your excuse", you should count your blessings and hope they don't suddenly get taken away from you. In an instant you could lose your husband and become a single mom, or come down with a physical condition that doesn't allow you to be mobile, or your businesses could plummet and your financial security would be squashed leaving you scraping by to support your family and no energy left to workout, or perhaps your 1 year old son could suddenly become introverted and in 6 months you find out he is autistic and your world turns upside down as you struggle to understand why your son is locked away inside of himself. Where will you be then? You won't have time to work out. You won't CARE about working out to have a super fit body. You'll do what you can to maintain healthy weight but you will feel depression and loneliness fir a time. You will hate women like you who don't think about the trials and struggles that so many women face of various kinds. I'm fit, so i'm not "jealous". Like i said, good for you!" - Facebook comment.

Um, what?



"The hate was earned. She's nothing more than an ego maniacal narcissist looking to flaunt herself. Shallow and plastic." - Facebook Comment

*Give it up for not judging books by their covers everyone!* Wow.


With this influx of publicity and positive (you go girl!) and negative (you suck!) attention, Maria made a statement (an apology. Kinda. ish.) on her Facebook page.

“I’m sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won’t go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two businesses, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer. What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It’s yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn’t create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life.”



I do realize that genetics are in fact a huge issue, as well as health issues in the struggle to lose weight. I understand that not all bodies are the same and that it is harder to maintain a certain body weight for some. It really isn't all that easy for everyone. That is a large reason many people are up in arms, claiming that they don't have the means or even want to be in phenomenal shape, and that makes sense. I get it.  What I don't get though or ever will is the attempt to intensely defend an unhealthy lifestyle over a healthy one. I also don't condone sad excuses because I believe that Impossible is Nothing. (except running on water or a human taking flight.)


Misery loves company. Jealousy and success is earned. Everyone has an opinion. My 2 cents. Rant over.



Happy Hump Day! Now go hump something and burn some cals.




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