"Society" is an ambiguous term; it may mean much or nothing." - Emily Post, Author
I am writing this blog because I believe that people are good.
Or, at least, they want to be good.
Society has taken on a new meaning with the various turns of the century, conjuring images of the gaunt starlets toting next season's Louis V. Or if you're one of the ten people that actually reads the articles in Vogue, perhaps it's a glamorous matriarch in pre-Lagerfeld Chanel. But every day, we encounter fellow commuters, colleagues, friends and family members, and we interact with them.
They are our society, whether they're high or not.
Members of that society, at the most basic level, want to be liked, to be accepted and to be embraced by other members of the society. And often, those who don't have great end results don't understand why.
Well, look out world, because I'm here to tell you why:
You're late. You're rude. You chew with your mouth open. You don't shut screen doors. You don't tip well. You exhale through your nose. You talk down to the staff. You have "boundary" issues. You drink too much. You breathe loudly on conference calls. You speak too loudly. You're insulting. You're blunt. You're kind of a jerk. You don't reciprocate. You act like you were raised in a barn.
There are a million reasons to not like someone, and often they'll present themselves far before you get to the many good reasons that would have you remain quite fond of the very same person. It's a shame.
In the days when many people were, literally, entering society after being raised in a barn, Emily Post served as the accepted authority on etiquette, a term that originally meant "get off my lawn." She provided a comprehensive manual on all things well-mannered, appropriate and far from thy neighbor's lawn.
Times have changed since Emily Post published her still-classic Etiquette, but the need for guidelines to acceptable behavior has not.
And for that reason, and because I like to declare myself "authority" on things, I present to you the Kae Pasa? Etiquette Project, Posts on Post: Traditional etiquette know-how for a train-riding, commuter-shoe wearing, corporate-climbing American woman of today.
Etiquette In Society, In Business, In Politics and At Home
By Emily Post (Mrs. Price Post)
Author of "Purple and Fine Linen," "The Title Market," "Woven in the Tapestry," "The Flight of a Moth," "Letters of a Worldly Godmother," etc. etc.
New York and London
Printed in the United States of America
Posts on Post: Traditional etiquette know-how for a train-riding, commuter-shoe wearing, corporate-climbing woman of today.
By Kaelan Ward (Ms. Ward)
Author of Kae Pasa?, two never-published manuscripts, brilliant articles and op-eds in the RedEye!, Marquette Tribune and Chicago Tribune and hundreds of never-to-be-published poems about boys.
Typed on a couch in Bucktown, Chicago.
Behavior is one of the unconquerable tools we have in our arsenal to fight life's daily battles - whether it be the battle of the budget, the bulge or the last seat on the Blue Line. Understanding the nuances of both our own behavior and reacting to those around us, in our societies, is a way of harnessing that tool to present ourselves more attractively to those we've know forever, and to those that we'd like to know forever and ever, amen.
Via Posts, I'll provide a window to the world of Emily Post, and attempt to bring it into the world of twitter feeds on crowded elevators. I hope you'll enjoy it, learn from it and, most importantly, provide your feedback and questions. Maybe, just maybe, our fast-paced, time-is-money society will learn to slow down, speak softly and prove to the people walking in the door behind us that really, at the bottom of it, we, the people, are good.