Tag: open adoption

I Kiss This Boy's Cheeks in Twos

I Kiss This Boy's Cheeks in Twos
Welcome to 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days, hosted by Portrait of an Adoption. This series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying adoption experiences and perspectives. By Elizabeth Lewis This is the end of the story: my husband and I are the happy parents of a twenty-month old boy. As Yoda would... Read more »

Reading with Clark, or the Case of the Missing Parents

Reading with Clark, or the Case of the Missing Parents
Welcome to 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days, hosted by Portrait of an Adoption. This series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying adoption experiences and perspectives. By Jay D. Lenn On the day my husband Greg and I brought our son Clark home, we read to him. The first book was Guess... Read more »

Adoptees and Lying: Why A Child Might Be Telling Lies

“My child is always telling lies. It started at a young age and it has just gotten worse over time. Why is this happening? Is it common among adoptees? What should I do?” I frequently receive messages about adoptees that struggle with chronic lying. It’s something that is not discussed enough in adoption circles, because... Read more »
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Call for Submissions for 7th Annual Series: 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days

Call for Submissions for 7th Annual Series: 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days
Welcome to Portrait of an Adoption! So happy you are here. In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, I will be running the seventh annual special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days. The series is designed to give a voice to many different people with widely varying perspectives on adoption. Some... Read more »

Why You Should Award A College Scholarship To My Daughter's Birthmother

June 15, 2017 Dear Scholarship Committee, I first met M fourteen years ago on a hot, sunny July day. We were both young but not naïve, and we shared nothing except a recent history of trauma and grief. What struck me about M was how few supports she had — no financial safety net, no... Read more »

Preparing to Watch "This Is Us" Finale

My husband and I have been watching This Is Us with our thirteen-year-old daughter. It is not an easy show to watch. Like the parents on the show — Jack and Rebecca — my husband and I have two biological children and one child through adoption. Our thirteen-year-old was adopted as a baby – not... Read more »
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For My Daughter's Birth Mother: YOU Are the Ray of Light

Her light brown hair was pulled back into a ponytail. That was the first thing I noticed about M. The differences between us were glaring; we were careworn beings from two alternate worlds, suddenly thrust together in a strange, confusing universe. If a thousand terrible factors hadn’t come together in each of our lives, we would... Read more »

A Letter To My Daughter On Her Bat Mitzvah: On Adoption and Belonging

My dearest K, Almost thirteen years ago exactly, we held your baby naming. In fact, Cantor Howard, who is standing beside us today, was there on that occasion. You were five months old and had very recently joined our family. At that ceremony, as I held you in my joyful arms, I recited the following opening... Read more »

How Adoption Is A Metaphor For Refugees

How Adoption Is A Metaphor For Refugees
This morning, I was talking with my thirteen-year-old about how a ban on refugees is a metaphor for a ban on adoptions, particularly adoptions from foster care. “How was I like a refugee?” my daughter asked. “Do you think you wanted to leave your first home?” I asked her. “No,” she answered. “You had to... Read more »
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The Love You Feel Cannot Be Matched

Welcome to 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days, hosted by Portrait of an Adoption. This series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying adoption experiences. By Anonymous I used to care that my kids were adopted instead of biological. I mean, I thought about it a lot. We were at the hospital when... Read more »