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Pretty Won't Earn You Checkmate

I am sitting in a gym that is packed with waiting families.  Moms, dads, sisters, brothers—we are all settled in haphazardly, surrounded by brown bag lunches, newspapers, discarded winter coats and hats and gloves.  Practice chess boards are set up on some of the tables, pieces scattered mid-game. The girls are in the other room... Read more »

By Carrie Goldman,
January 14, 2012 at 3:06 pm

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Is Seven the New Eleven?

When Katie was a toddler, I viewed the teenage years as something to contend with far in the distance.  Now I’m not so sure.  It started this summer, when she came home from Arts Camp and asked me to buy a Taylor Swift song from iTunes.   Taylor Swift?  Just a few weeks ago, Katie... Read more »

By Carrie Goldman,
September 16, 2010 at 9:26 pm

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• 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days

  In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days. Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents. Painful and beautiful, these stories will bring you a deeper understanding of what adoption looks like, allowing you to appreciate the many brushstrokes that comprise a family portrait.
  
  Nov. 1: The Waiting is the Hardest Part by Merrin Donahue
  Nov. 2: Lost Connections by An Anonymous Birthmother
  Nov. 3: Being the Adopted Kid by Kim Wilkes
  Nov. 4: An Unpredictable Journey of Faith by Debbie Mumm
  Nov. 5: I Drove Home Without Her by Jill Barber
  Nov. 6: We Nearly Decided To Give Up by Rob Duval
  Nov. 7: Adoption Would Protect Her by G, birthmother
  Nov. 8: If Not Me, Then Who? by Dawn Berger
  Nov. 9: I Found Out I Was Adopted Because of Facebook by Andrew Cadieux
  Nov. 10: I Had Missed the Call by Cathy J.
  Nov. 11: Pain Among Beauty by Gretchen Helgeson
  Nov. 12: The Lifelong Detective: Still searching for my birth family by Marian Rogers
  Nov. 13: What Dreams May Come by Diana Perrone
  Nov. 14: Katie's Custody Day: A Strong Girl from the Start by Carrie Goldman
  Nov. 15: Real Life, Not the TV Version by Kat Szmit
  Nov. 16: A Strange Bird Cry Announces Our Daughter by Jeremy Cressman
  Nov. 17: My Oldest Daughter And I Shared Our First Hug by Amy Conn
  Nov. 18: Afraid of Being Left Behind by Melissa Miller
  Nov. 19: The Reality Started to Set In That I Was Never Going to Be Pregnant Again by Jodie Tallman
  Nov. 20: When the Name "Mother" Has Multiple Meanings by Sarah Werthan Buttenwieser
  Nov. 21: A Cast-Aside Child Comes Home by Alice Bengel
  Nov. 22: Where Are The Babies? by Jennifer Allwood
  Nov. 23: Could I Open My Heart to Trying Adoption Again? by Deb Bart
  Nov. 24: He Can Make You Smile Even On Your Worst Day by Josh Graham
  Nov. 25: Not All Adoptees Find a Happy Home? by "Rachel"
  Nov. 26: We Are Not Complete by Dana at Life Unexpected
  Nov. 27: I Had To Do What Was Best For All Of My Children by M, Katie's Birthmother
  Nov. 28: An Adoption Postcard From My Side of the Edge by Kim Strickland
  Nov. 29: The Big Problem Facing Foster-to-Adopt Families by Betsy White
  Nov. 30: When Adoptive Family + Birth Families = Happiness by Collen Walsh
  Dec. 1: We Did It! Surviving the First Year . . . by Candice Warltier
  Epilogue: Wrap-up of the 2011 Adoption Portraits guest series by Carrie Goldman

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  Carrie Goldman

  I am a writer and artist living north of Chicago. My husband Andrew and I have three daughters -- Katie, Annie Rose and Cleo. My first book, which is an exploration of bullying, will be published by Harper Collins in 2012.

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