Posts in category "infertility"

You Never Know: Grieving the Loss of a Baby

It was a joy to be pregnant with my first baby.  I have always loved babies — the intense gaze of their dark newborn eyes, the way they smell, the cool smooth butter of their skin; new babies just home from the hospital, tightly swaddled and deeply asleep; babies in fat bunched diapers, babies crawling,... Read more »

Adoption Retrospective Ten Years Later: Jan 2003 - Deciding to Adopt

It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  In honor of the passing of time, I will be publishing one post each month in 2013 that reflects on our lives in 2003. January 2003 Grief fills the room up of my absent child, Lies in his bed, walks up and down with... Read more »

The Grief in Knowing I Will Never Be Called Mom.

In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying experiences. By an Anonymous Birthmother From the... Read more »
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A Letter to My Son's Birth Mother

A Letter to My Son's Birth Mother
In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying experiences.  By Merrin Donahue I wrote the... Read more »

A Strange Bird Cry Announces Our Daughter

A Strange Bird Cry Announces Our Daughter
In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents.  Painful... Read more »

What Dreams May Come

What Dreams May Come
In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents.  Painful... Read more »
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Pain Among Beauty

Pain Among Beauty
In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents.  Painful... Read more »

Mother's Day, On Loss and Joy

This morning while I was running, my thoughts drifted back to Mother’s Day 2003.  I rarely think about that time, and if I do, it is only on the periphery of my mind.  I touch on it with words like grief and loss, but I dance cautiously around the concrete memories.  Tears soon mingled with... Read more »

Adoption Was Second Choice But Not Second Best

Katie and Carrie on Katie’s 5th Birthday For most adoptive parents, the decision to adopt evolves out of difficulty with reproduction.  Sure, there are some famous movie stars such as Angelina Jolie, who adopted baby Maddox and then baby Zahara long before attempting to reproduce with Brad Pitt.  But, quite frankly, the cases where adoption... Read more »
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My Adopted Child Is My Own Child

Katie, Carrie and Annie Rose From 2010: Recently at the gym, an acquaintance gaped at my pregnant belly.  “Oh, wow, you’re having one of your own,” she squealed in excitement. Yes, but I already have my own children.   My adopted daughter is my own, just as much as any biological child. Again and again, I... Read more »