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Posts in category "grief"

We Are Not Complete

We Are Not Complete
In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents.  Painful... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
November 26, 2011 at 7:54 am
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Katie's Custody Day: A Strong Girl from the Start

Katie's Custody Day: A Strong Girl from the Start
Today is November 14th, which happens to be my daughter Katie’s custody day!  In honor of this special occasion, which conveniently falls during National Adoption Month, I am posting a letter I have written to Katie.  This will be the only Portrait in our series of 30 Adoption Portraits that was not written by a... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
November 14, 2011 at 8:44 am
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Pain Among Beauty

Pain Among Beauty
In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents.  Painful... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
November 11, 2011 at 9:06 am
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The Online Community Grieves as Donna's Cancer Story Comes to Final Chapter

The Online Community Grieves as Donna's Cancer Story Comes to Final Chapter
The posts are going quickly now, and Donna’s remaining days are few.   The final chapter in Donna’s Cancer Story will be told on October 1st.  There is a nameless, hovering sense of dread among those of us reading Donna’s Cancer Story, coupled with a wistful clinging to the moments of joy. Mary Tyler Mom is... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
September 26, 2011 at 1:54 pm
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Why Does Katie Have A Different Birth Dad?

Why Does Katie Have A Different Birth Dad?
This morning while we were making breakfast, Annie Rose said to Katie, “D is your oldest brother.” “Yep,” Katie agreed.  “And E is my oldest sister.” I flipped the zucchini on the stove, half-listening to the girls. “And the baby that died is your youngest brother,” Annie Rose continued. “Shh,” Katie shushed her.  “Mommy doesn’t... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
September 5, 2011 at 10:30 am
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Did I ruin my life by having/ adopting these kids?

Tonight I went to visit a friend, N, who has eight-week-old twins.  She also has a one-year-old.   Three healthy babies, a blessing that millions of people wish for. And along with those three beautiful babies, she and her husband have a house full of chaos, no sleep, mounting financial concerns and no ability to get... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
July 8, 2011 at 8:21 pm
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Mother's Day, On Loss and Joy

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This morning while I was running, my thoughts drifted back to Mother’s Day 2003.  I rarely think about that time, and if I do, it is only on the periphery of my mind.  I touch on it with words like grief and loss, but I dance cautiously around the concrete memories.  Tears soon mingled with... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
May 6, 2011 at 5:00 pm
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The Best Second Mother

The Best Second Mother
Two weeks ago, Andrew and I were trying to move the girls through their evening routine.  We had just finished dinner, and it was time to start the bath.  Andrew reached the top of the stairs first, toting a chortling Cleo, and Annie Rose scrambled up behind him. As Katie and I climbed the stairs... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
February 27, 2011 at 10:00 pm
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Adopted by the Geeks and Nerds

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Click the logo above to vote for Portrait of an Adoption! Andrew and I were the first ones to adopt Katie.  She has lived with us from the time she was several months old, and we have escorted her through the ups and downs of daily life for seven years.   And then last month... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
December 4, 2010 at 10:49 pm
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Custody Day

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Dear Katie, Today is the seventh anniversary of the day we got custody of you.  You did not grow in my stomach, Katie, but you grew in my heart.   My labor with you did not last 18 or 24 or 48 hours.  It lasted months, and it took more than doctors, midwives and nurses... Read more »
By Carrie Goldman,
November 8, 2010 at 8:17 pm
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