Posts in category "birthmother grief"

Adoption Changes the Birthday Experience

This post first appeared on Adoption.net on March 20. Today is the birthday of my daughter’s birthmother, M.  I find myself thinking about her frequently throughout the day, more so than I have in past years on her birthday.  I wonder about how the meaning of birthdays has changed for M since making an adoption plan for... Read more »

I Learned Something So Sacred and Special That Day

I Learned Something So Sacred and Special That Day
In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption is hosting the third annual acclaimed series, 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying experiences.  I Learned Something So Sacred... Read more »

I Won't Go A Day Without Thinking About My Youngest Son

I Won't Go A Day Without Thinking About My Youngest Son
In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption is hosting the third annual acclaimed series, 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying experiences.  I Won’t Go A Day... Read more »
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Adoption Retrospective: Witnessing Another Mother Give Birth to Our Daughter

It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  In honor of the passing of time, I am publishing one post each month in 2013 that reflects on our lives in 2003 September 2003: Part One There is a festive atmosphere in M’s room as the night unfolds.  Her cousins and aunts show... Read more »

Open Adoption: Letter to K On Her 10th Birthday From Her Birthmother

Open Adoption: Letter to K On Her 10th Birthday From Her Birthmother
K’s birthmother sent me the following letter for K on her 10th birthday: Dear K, I can’t believe you are going to be 10 years old tomorrow.  You have grown to be such an amazing person, and while I can take some credit for your amazing genes, I give so much credit to your wonderful... Read more »

After Many False Starts, We Finally Meet Our Birthmother!

After Many False Starts, We Finally Meet Our Birthmother!
It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  In honor of the passing of time, I will be publishing one post each month in 2013 that reflects on our lives in 2003. July 2003: It is a Thursday night, which means my best friend Debby is hanging out with me at our... Read more »
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Adoption Retrospective Ten Years Later: The Dream Birthmother

It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  In honor of the passing of time, I will be publishing one post each month in 2013 that reflects on our lives in 2003. June 2003 It is June 1st.  A quiet night.  I am in the kitchen when the baby cell phone rings.... Read more »

CLOSURE: An Adoption Documentary

CLOSURE: An Adoption Documentary
Guest Post by Bryan Tucker “I’ve got this idea for a documentary,” I say to my friend.  “What’s it about?” he asks.  I reply, “My wife, Angela, being a trans-racial adoptee searching for her birth family.” Long pause. This conversation never actually occurred with said friend, or with anyone for that matter, but it’s happened... Read more »

Adoption Retrospective, Ten Years Later: Life is Pain, Highness

Adoption Retrospective, Ten Years Later: Life is Pain, Highness
It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  In honor of the passing of time, I will be publishing one post each month in 2013 that reflects on our lives in 2003. Please read the January, 2003 post , February, 2003 Post, and March, 2003 Post. It is April 26, 2003.  Andrew’s... Read more »
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A First Mother’s Agony, Part Three: How Grief Turned into Anger

A First Mother’s Agony, Part Three: How Grief Turned into Anger
This is the third part of a 3-part series written by guest poster Casey Anderson.  (Please see Part 1, which also includes an introduction to this miniseries, and Part 2.) By Casey Anderson It was an ordinary day until 4:53 pm.  Conference calls and meetings, homework assignments and mulling over dinner.  I booted my computer... Read more »