Category: attachment in adoption

Adoption Retrospective: The First Goodbye

It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  Each month, I am reflecting on our lives in 2003. September 2003, Part 2 It is now Friday morning, and the hospital is preparing to discharge newborn K into the custody of her foster mother, Susan.  As a hopeful adoptive mother, I have no... Read more »

Adoption Retrospective: Witnessing Another Mother Give Birth to Our Daughter

It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  In honor of the passing of time, I am publishing one post each month in 2013 that reflects on our lives in 2003 September 2003: Part One There is a festive atmosphere in M’s room as the night unfolds.  Her cousins and aunts show... Read more »

New Donaldson Report Calls for Adoption Competency Training Among Mental Health Professionals

Several days ago, my colleague Adam Pertman, the Executive Director of the Donaldson Adoption Institute, sent me an advance link to the Institute’s new report, “A Need to Know: Enhancing Adoption Competence among Mental Health Professionals.” Adam Pertman and the Donaldson Adoption Institute are embarking on an “intensive  sustained effort to distribute the report to... Read more »
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Adoption Retrospective: Aren't You Worried That Birthmother Is Smoking During Pregnancy?

It has been ten years since we began our adoption journey.  In honor of the passing of time, I will be publishing one post each month in 2013 that reflects on our lives in 2003 August 2003 We take several weekend trips to M’s town to spend time with her and make preparations for the... Read more »

Think “Nature vs. Nurture” no more. Marvel at the mix.

Think “Nature vs. Nurture” no more. Marvel at the mix.
This is a guest post by Jody Cantrell Dyer, author of The Eye of Adoption: The True Story of My Turbulent Wait for a Baby When my son Houston was four years old, he begged, “Mama, will you please “verse” me in ping-pong?” Since infancy, Houston had tucked himself right next to his daddy to... Read more »

CLOSURE: An Adoption Documentary

CLOSURE: An Adoption Documentary
Guest Post by Bryan Tucker “I’ve got this idea for a documentary,” I say to my friend.  “What’s it about?” he asks.  I reply, “My wife, Angela, being a trans-racial adoptee searching for her birth family.” Long pause. This conversation never actually occurred with said friend, or with anyone for that matter, but it’s happened... Read more »
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Five Ways to Help Bond with an Adopted or Foster Child

Five Ways to Help Bond with an Adopted or Foster Child
The following guest post was written by Amanda Carlson, a former newborn care nurse, specifically to provide suggestions to help adoptive and foster parents bond with their new children. 1. Routines – Developing a steady routine is good for any child regardless of age. One of the most common is that of the bedtime routine.  Telling... Read more »

"I'm not like you! You're not adopted!"

Yesterday, I was driving my 9-yr-old daughter K to her ballet class.  In the half-hour prior to leaving for ballet class, K had been working on math homework, and she had grown frustrated with some of the problems.  I decided it would be helpful if we practiced some of the concepts in the car, and... Read more »

She's My Girl, Just As If She Were Born To Us

She's My Girl, Just As If She Were Born To Us
In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying experiences.  By Andrew There was never a... Read more »
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Why My Son Has A Closed Adoption

In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying experiences. By Anonymous Picture that your little... Read more »