During the 30 days of November, in honor of National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption hosted a series of poignant guest posts dealing with issues related to adoption and foster care. If you have not had a chance to enjoy the stories, click here to link to them.
Like last year’s series, the voices represented were very diverse: we heard from adoptive parents, birthparents, foster parents, adoptees, foster children, relatives of people in the adoption triad, etc.
During the month of November alone, there were over 160,000 page views of Portrait of an Adoption, and thousands of new page views will continue to accumulate throughout the coming year.
Your stories were beautifully written, thought-provoking, heartbreaking and inspirational. Through the series, some of you have found lasting connections with each other. Your experiences are profound, and each one is unique. No one has lived your reality except you, and each of you has made the best decisions that you could, based on the circumstances facing you.
Last year, the stories were met with 100% support and positive feedback, because the only people who could comment were those who took the time to register an account with ChicagoNow. I noticed with joy that you commented on each other’s stories, that you offered support and comfort for each other’s grief and heartfelt congratulations on each other’s successes.
This year, the overwhelming majority of responses continued to be very positive, encouraging and kind. However, ChicagoNow has switched to a platform that offers general Facebook commenting. The benefit of this is that we have a wider, broader audience of commenters, and your stories reach more people.
The drawback to this system is that some hostile readers found their way to the stories. Those hostile readers often have legitimate gripes with the institution of adoption, usually borne of their own painful histories, but they unfortunately choose to manifest those gripes with anger, contempt and sweeping disdain for other members of the triad.
Still, the hostile readers were a minority. I actually invited some of them to submit their own stories to the series, so that we could share their points of view, but none of the people I contacted responded. Please note that I remain open to receiving submissions from anyone and everyone, even those of you who are critical of the institution of adoption.
Due to the popularity of the series and heavy demand, I will run it again next year! As a takeaway, here are a few references, recommendations and resources:
- www.adoption.org; www.adopting.org and www.adoption.com are good places to start if you are interesting in learning more about pretty much anything adoption-related (i.e. searching for your birth family, learning adoption laws in your state, placing your baby for adoption, finding an adoption agency, etc.)
- http://www.childwelfare.gov/adoption/ is a great place to learn about U.S. foster-care adoption.
Adoption Books and Music:
- Bring your friends and family In On It as you enter the world of adoption. This excellent book, which was written by guest poster Elisabeth O’Toole, is being offered at a special discount for the holidays. Check out our interview with Elisabeth O’Toole.
- Urge your adoption agency to sign up for Parent Match in order to broaden your chance of matching with a baby. Check out our interview with Parent Match.
- If you are trying to fundraise to assist with adoption costs, check out Just Love Coffee Roasters.
- Many of our family’s favorite adoption-related books are included in this special list of Best Children’s Books About Adoption available on Amazon.
- Additionally, the amazing new website A Mighty Girl has this great collection of children’s adoption books.
- We especially love Sam’s Sister by Juliet Bond (a children’s story from the point of view of a little girl whose mother places a baby for adoption).
- If you are interested in turning your child’s unique adoption story into a beautiful storybook for your family, contact Stacey Shannon at Happily Ever After Me, llc.
- Our favorite CD of adoption songs is called Same Same by Chuck Kent. I always smile and cry when I listen to the song Tell Me the Story Again. I remember dancing through our kitchen, holding Katie in my arms at long last, singing that song to her.
Thank you to all of our guest posters for your honest and heartfelt words. Thank you to all of the readers who wrote supportive comments, sent me private emails, and provided an audience for the series. It was spectacular!
Portrait of an Adoption has been nominated to the Circle of Moms Top 25 Book Author Mom Blogs! If you are enjoying this adoption series, please support Portrait by clicking here and voting! Today, December 7, 2012, is the last day to vote.
Portrait of an Adoption is hosted by Carrie Goldman, author of Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear. If you have a story you would like to submit as a candidate for next year’s series, please email it to firstname.lastname@example.org.
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