Sweatpants or Hot Pants: Dressing like a "Mom"

    I am having an identity crisis. From what I know, I am not alone. A couple of my friends and I were talking about our feelings and concerns now that we are parents approaching our mid thirties. Wow, I just cringed as I wrote "mid thirties". Anyway, we were discussing very important topics, like last night's episode of The Bachelor, when we switched the topic to clothes and where to shop when you find yourself as a mom over the age of 30. We lamented the fact that if you are a stay at home mom or you work from home, the uniform of choice is something that comes from the intimates section of Target and bears the label Hanes. Who cares if your 2 year old throws lasagna at you? Those clothes are basically disposable! However, those clothes are not exactly hot. Where does that leave us? Somewhere between Hanes and a hard place.
    One of my friends really loves the store Anthropologie, as do I. I think both of us really love the image of life portrayed in its catalog as well. Who wouldn't want to ride their antique bicycle down cobblestone streets enrobed in a gauzy $250 sweater? Then a spoonful of lasagna hits you in the face. A sweater from Anthropologie would last about 10 minutes in most households that I know.
    Jeans are also an issue. I went to Target (of course) the other day to shop for jeans. I just needed something new for every day wear. In my prior life before having a child, I probably would look for a slim fit with a low rise. Typical for someone in their twenties who spends a lot of time in bars. Now I found myself thinking "Hmmm....I really need a mid-rise since I do so much bending a lifting during the day. Something comfortable." Then I snapped. "Did the phrase mid-rise just float through my mind? What is happening to me? What's next, crocheted Santa sweaters?" Eventually I calmed down and was able to take a pile of jeans into the fitting room. I settled on a pair that claimed they were a boot cut with a curvy fit. Ok, I can deal with that. It's not like the label said Mom Jeans. Then I filled my cart with whole milk and goldfish crackers. If that doesn't scream "Mom" I don't know what does.
    Are there any other moms out there thinking about these things? Where do you shop? Do you choose practicality over style? Do you miss buying cute work clothes at Ann Taylor and Express? Do the cashiers at Target greet you by name now? Let's hear it!

For the anti-mom jean enthusiast, please check out The Denim Loft in Geneva or Camden in Elmhurst.

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  • My budget does not allow for the luxury of a maid service, so I clean my own house. I start the day off on a hip note, but wind up changing mid-morning so I don't ruin my "going out in public" clothes...

    I also feel like I am in a 30-something fashion limbo. Where should I shop? I am over the Gap (is it "the gap" or just "gap" now?) and can't stand my gray, black and white wardrobe from Banana Republic.

    I am thinking a makeover for both of us!! :) Maybe our clothes will be stain free once we have children out of diapers and high chairs...

  • In reply to erago:

    I hope I can someday be stain free. In the meantime, I will continue to add to Target's annual net profits!

  • In reply to erago:

    That picture is priceless! The mom jean-something you swore you'd never wear. I am holding off as long as possible. I am stuck in the yoga pant stage currently. I can clean the house, play with my son, workout and at night dress it up with a "fancy" top. They are never uncomfortable cause they are stretchy and yet hug my butt enough for my husbands liking! Haha. I will worry about the mom jeans later, when I start addressing my husband as father, quoting my mother and singing aloud with elevator music (even when I'm not alone.)

  • In reply to Karieskip:

    I think I'm going to have to invest in some yoga pants!
    When I start addressing my husband as "father" I know it's reached a crisis situation!

  • In reply to AmandaJ:

    Don't you call him "big daddy"?

  • In reply to Karieskip:

    I did make a commitment last year to dress up every time I leave the house. So the only people who see me in my ragged state are my neighbors and my husband. I am fashionably acceptable in public and at work meetings, I just want to jazz it up at home and not feel bad when I accidentally spill bleach on myself.

  • In reply to Karieskip:

    you are hilarious!

  • In reply to Karieskip:

    I agree with so much in this post.
    1. Target should have some form of frequent shopper program
    2. Old Navy and Express are good for jeans. I buy them on the bigger side so they are not huge.
    3. Lululemon has adorable (and expensive) workout clothes so I usually work out in the morning and sometimes end up wearing those clothes all day.
    4. I have a lot of cute, not practical clothes in my closet that never gets worn.

  • In reply to bethprystowsky:

    There needs to be a practical makeover show. I love it when they take someone like me (working and stay-at-home mom) and transform them into a modern fashionable woman. HOWEVER, as much as I would like to pretend, I cannot wash the toilet in heels, nor can I set up an elaborate train track on the floor in my $250 jeans.

    I am sure I sound like a whiny baby. When it comes to my wardrobe, I need someone to tell me what to wear. And hopefully they can go and buy it for me, too...

  • In reply to bethprystowsky:

    I LOVE TJmaxx and Marshalls. You can get nice jeans for under $20! They also have a lot of nice workout/yoga clothes, too. All inexpensive.
    Now do any of you lovely mom's have advice for Maternity Clothes??!

  • In reply to sfabsik:

    Mimi Maternity/Pea in the Pod has some really cute clothes. Do not get one of those belly bands that convert your "real"pants into maternity pants. I wore mine one time and it choked the life out of me.

    I do have some advice. Don't listen to anyone's advice during your pregnancy unless it's your doctor or doula. If this is your first pregnancy, get ready for an abundance of advice! Just go with your heart and your gut. :)

    Back to clothes-If you are working, Ann Taylor LOFT has super cute maternity clothes. Motherhood maternity has good/inexpensive tanks and t-shirts... I could go on and on! :)

  • In reply to sfabsik:

    Thanks for the advice! I've been wearing the belly band for awhile. I LOVE them. They are great with the new GAP jeans that I bought in the fall that now don't fit around my bump. The one that I have goes from my hips all the way to under my breasts. So, it's not just hugging my waist.

  • In reply to sfabsik:

    I am glad you like the belly band. Maybe I was just too big to wear it! ;)Congrats!

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