When one is in the state of grief, its like being in a rabbit hole. We are simply stuck. We try and try to get out. Sometimes we are successful at finding a few moments of happiness and joy. At times we just keep sliding down the hole. And then there are those of us that are simply frozen.
I get a lot of calls from people that are in this stage of life - frozen due to a death in the family. I never totally understood this feeling till I went through a string of loss a few years ago. At times, I too froze.
I find that during this period many people are searching for some happiness and shopping is an easy fix. I see a lot of houses that fill up during this difficult time. Then there is also the fact of bringing your family members items into your space.
Most people get so overwhelmed with emotion that they don't know where to begin. My advice- baby steps. Make a list of what needs to be done. Don't push yourself and do what you can each day. If needed enlist the help of friends, family, or a professional.
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