With each passing day since the Harvey Weinstein story exploded, another powerful man is knocked off his lofty perch or could be in danger of soon doing so.
Charlie Rose. Matt Lauer. Garrison Keilor. Senator Al Franken. Congressman John Conyers. Louie C.K. Kevin Spacey. Roy Moore. James Tobach. Mark Halperin. Roy Price. Michael Oreskes. Russell Simmons. Geraldo Rivera.
Just this morning: longtime conductor of the Metropolitan Opera, James Levine.
I'm appalled, disappointed, bewildered, horrified, and, frankly, creeped-out--not just at the number of heavy-hitters who've been called out for their actions, but with 200,000 metoo#s following Alyssa Milano's now famous tweet, there must be an ungodly number of unrecognizable men in positions of authority who've abused it.
I'm also confused. Should rapists and pedophiles be thrown in the same boat (the Titantic) as, say, gropers and dirty talkers? And while I admire the brave women who've come forward, I'm not completely comfortable with using the media to execute each and every one of these men.
Some of the accused have come forward, trite in their contriteness. Their responses sounding strangely similar. (Did they all hire the same lawyer? A Gloria Allred for the accused?)
"I'm sorry." "I'm ashamed." "I'm embarrassed."
I've seen Facebook comments which point fingers at the victims. Why didn't these women speak up? Why didn't they come forward sooner? Most of my people (females) know why. They were afraid no one would listen or care, or worse, be blamed and lose their jobs.
But the victims aren't the ones who should be held unaccountable. It's the victimizers. That's why what I'd really like to see is at least one of them to level with us, come clean in a AA sort of way, and say:
"I'm a sexual harrasser (or abuser) and here's why I did it."
Of course, I know this will never happen. But, really, I want to know.
Why did you do it?
Because you were powerful and you could get away with it? Because it was fun? Because it was a turn-on to demean women? Because, well, you could?
Did you do it because you're a selfish a-hole and satisfying your sexual needs comes before anything else? Did you not give a crap about the people you harassed or abused? Or how about how your wife or girlfriend? I imagine you're paying the piper now.
Charlie Rose, Matt Lauer, Louis C.K.: Did you actually think your colleagues were interested in seeing your junk?
Maybe I have it all wrong. Maybe you male harassers and abusers are totally different creatures from those of us who don't have the same equipment. Are you preprogrammed by your DNA/nature with an intense, unrelenting need to procreate--like animals?
You do think maybe Mike Pence had it right all along: Never have dinner alone with a woman other than your wife?
Crazy questions, I know. But these are crazy times. And we need answers. Maybe then we can figure out how the hell to stop it.
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