Living on after a loved one's suicide: After Anthony Bourdain and all the others

Suicide – so final, so impulsive, so theoretically preventable, so hard to understand, so very hard to forgive. I am going to miss Anthony Bourdain, who died of suicide yesterday in Paris, a few days after fashion icon Kate Spade did in New York. I will miss Anthony in a devoted TV viewer sort of way. ... Read more »

Author Sue Grafton: M is for Missing you already

Sue Grafton died the other day. The author of 25 detective novels, she’s been with me since 1982 when A is for Alibi came out. Her books took me from life as a young mother through two careers to present day where I am reading her most recent, and it turns out last, Y is... Read more »

School Shootings: 4 things that should be obvious by now

18 school shootings so far in 2018, and it is only Valentine’s Day. Where will we be by July 4th, Veterans”s Day, Christmas? One thing we can all agree on, children should not be giving up their lives for our inaction on problems we continue to avoid. Here’s what looks obvious to me: To identify likely... Read more »
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The Sisters' Writing Club and why you should want in

The Sisters’ Writing Club, the latest chapter in my writing life, is the brainchild of my sister-in-law Nan. She proposed it and all of us signed on immediately. The club invites all five of us to write a brief piece on the same topic every month. We share our pieces via email, then respond with... Read more »

Iris the Cable-Guy: An everyday hero

You might not spot Iris as a hero. From her curly-headed top to her rumpled khaki uniform to her worn size 10 work boots you can see the competence right away, but a hero? After a three-week internet drought that involved dozens of fruitless phone calls and empty promises, we saw Iris climb out of the cable... Read more »

A Christmas grace everyone can share: Around your table and around the world

What I want for Christmas: Kindness. Diversity. Inclusion. Peace on earth. Empathy. Connection. One way to get such fine gifts: Make your holiday prayer/grace/invocation welcoming to all who are around your table and all around the world. Author Anne Lamott, not one to get all sentimental and dreamy and exclusive about prayer, says that there... Read more »
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Creating a no-politics zone for Christmas: Peace on earth

What is the best thing about Christmas? Having the whole family in all its fascinating diversity together to celebrate, right? What is the worst thing? Fights breaking out over politics and the mad passions that get ignited that leave Uncle Ralph standing up and finger-pointing at Cousin Mitch who just said that he misses Obama more... Read more »

Call them survivors not victims: the power of language in sexual harassment

These women who have suffered sexual harassment or assault, these “accusers,”  these women  (and men) harmed by powerful men with no restraints – either internal or external – have been waiting for acknowledgement for a long time. Some spoke up and were ignored or sidelined. Others turned inward, embarrassed or ashamed or silently enraged, to deal with the trauma... Read more »

The public face and private cluelessness of the sexual harasser

The current deluge of sexual harassment stories is a real opportunity for all of us to come to understand the sexual predator in a whole new way. As we hear story after story, we can begin to see patterns, even as we retch at the details, from gropes and grabs to full-on assault. I see a natural... Read more »
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Matt Lauer: The problem with your sexual harassment apology statement

Memo to Matt Lauer:: Re: Your sexual harassment apology Matt, nice statement but maybe you should have had someone look it over one more time before your people launched it. The emotional tone works, The line about getting past this issue being your full-time job now is a nice touch. But there is one glaring... Read more »