Posts in category "Suggestion Box"

Practice what you preach

I am a mental health professional and part of what I do is to teach people coping skills and other healthy shit about communication and self care. I try to practice what I preach, which I do, unless I don’t. Sometimes I make a conscious choice to choose poor coping skills because healthy coping skills... Read more »

If something doesn't make you feel good, stop fucking doing it

A close friend recently told me that she missed my words, that they made her feel good. She asked me why I stopped writing. I told her that I didn’t stop writing. I stopped sharing, because sharing stopped making me feel good. The reasons are complicated, but the decision to stop sharing was simple, compassionate,... Read more »

Teachable moments and assholes

I hope both of my children will grow up to be confident and independent adults. It would kill me if, as adults, they turned out to be mom’s basement dwelling assholes, unable to hack it in the real world. I’m trying to do my part as a parent to teach them the basic life skills... Read more »
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How to start a blog

I receive many query emails from readers asking me how to start a blog. Depending on my mood, I either delete them without replying, or I reply with what I realize seems like a brief, somewhat curt message. I tell people to type “How to start a blog,” into whatever search engine they use and... Read more »

How to do girl's night out right

How to do girl's night out right
A couple of years ago, I told my friend D about Donna’s Cancer Story. I encouraged him to read it. D told me that he just could not read it. At the time, his son Q was only two years old. “It’s too upsetting,” he claimed, “I just don’t think I can take it.” I... Read more »

You will always be wrong, and that's all right, because everything is going to be all right

You will always be wrong, and that’s all right. I’m sad that Robin Williams died from depression. That’s how he died you know, from depression. Depression manifests itself differently in each host human, much like cancer or any other disease. It’s a chronic, progressive condition. It can be treated, yes, but even when it’s well... Read more »
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Ladies, you need to STOP feeling me up!

Lyletta, the author of the ChicagoNow hosted blog, I Hate My Developer, taught me never to touch a black girl’s hair. EVER. She’s also helped me become more of a bad ass in terms of setting boundaries and saying NO to things instead of feeling like I owe people a YES. Lyletta is good with boundaries... Read more »

Quit Your G*ddamn Bitching Chicken: A F*ck You Dinner Recipe from Moms Who Drink And Swear

It’s been well documented that I consider cooking to be my nemesis. And cooking dinner? Well, fuck cooking dinner. There’s an entire chapter in my book dedicated to my hatred for dinner and another one that rages about cooking in general. I hate dinner the most of all, because when evening comes, I’m just done.... Read more »

Don't you DARE call my breakfast white trash! Food racism - is this even a thing?

Food racism. Is that even a thing? You know, sort of like how some people say that Throw Back Thursday, when people post old pictures, isn’t a real thing. I don’t know! I do know that I posted this photo on Facebook Scrambled eggs and fried hot dogs! And a friend made a comment about... Read more »
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Do you need to go on an antidepressant?

When you find yourself at a party where there’s a doctor, do you ask him/her to look at suspicious mole on your shoulder? Do you pick the brains of psychiatrists you meet getting drunk at bars, asking them if they think you are depressed or if you need to go on an antidepressant? I hope... Read more »