HI! It's me, Nikki, A.K.A. the "Queen of Cussin" (I don't know who came up with that) and Moms Who Drink And Swear blogger and author. Tonight, Sunday, April 26th, I am doing a Facebook Live from my Moms Who Drink And Swear™ Facebook page at 7pm Central Standard Time.
I've never done this, I'm not exactly how it works. I do know how I work so please keep your expectations realistic and reasonable and by realistic reasonable I mean low. I should have just said that...
I would NOT have thought to do this if it had not been suggested by my publisher. My publisher wouldn't have thought to suggest it if Target hadn't decided to feature my book for Mother's Day - SEVEN FUCKING YEARS AFTER IT WAS RELEASED, which is so cool and I am grateful yet super confused by it because why now, seriously, I don't get it, but I don't get how a car works and I drive a car so...yeah, I'll be on Facebook live tonight talking about mental health, the COVID-19 global pandemic, and my book, "Moms Who Drink And Swear: True Tales of Loving My Kids While Losing My Mind."
For many authors, book promotion is the ABSOLUTE WORST because it requires a level of bullshit and begging that is uncomfortable. In my mind, it's so simple! If you want to buy my book, you will. But how can you buy it if you don't know about it?
My social media page for my blog has a large following. That happened over the course of several years as I wrote blogs and blurbs and GENUINELY enjoyed it. I met the coolest people and went on adventures. For years I wrote about whatever and whenever, and however the fuck I felt like it and THAT is why I kept it up despite the fact that my personal life was becoming increasingly chaotic and unmanageable.
I also kept it up because...
If 1% of the one million people on my Facebook page see that I posted a blog and then 1% of those people actually see the post, that's potentially 10,000 people reading! If even 1% of the 10,000 people read the post, that's 100 people - OH MY GOD, RIGHT? It's so cool. Here's what is even cooler...
If 1% of the 100, meaning ONE person reads the post, (I have no idea if this math is correct and I'm not going to check it so PLEASE FUCK OFF if you were thinking about sending me a message about it) and that one person gets joy, relief, and comfort from whatever weird words I shared, that was enough for me. ONE person matters.
I wanted to feel that way about my book but at the time it came out, I just couldn't. Waaaaaahhhh! Poor me. I got a book deal with a major publisher and I couldn't feel good about it. I know. Feel free to punch me in the face once the social distancing stuff is over. I'd understand. Just know that the book and all it entailed revealed the chinks in my life armor. I was loving my kids and I did lose my mind. I got lost. Aaaaaand that's where I'm going to stop for now and where I'll start tonight. At 6pm. On fucking Facebook. Live.
I'm Facebook Live-ing tonight!
I know that Live-ing not a word. I don't care. If you are new to my blog, you will either get used to the way I play fast and loose with language or you will take your eyeballs elsewhere. I've learned not to sweat the small stuff a long time ago because if I approached my writing like I was an actual writer, I'd never have shared word fucking ONE with anyone. To say that doing this Facebook live tonight is out of my comfort zone is an understatement, yet I am grateful to be doing it. Marsha M. Linehan, the creator of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, says...
“It is hard to be happy without a life worth living. This is a fundamental tenet of DBT. Of course, all lives are worth living in reality. No life is not worth living. But what is important is that you experience your life as worth living—one that is satisfying, and one that brings happiness.”
I will be VERY happy to see you tonight.
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