The social media is still somewhat mysterious to me. Tweets and hashtags and blogs and RSS feeds and widgets and networking and the accumulation of “likes” ……..EXHAUSTING. I did recently become a Twitterer. Unfortunately, it’s just another place where I can see that I’m missing some essential and quite possibly obvious, basic understanding of the social media beyond being merely social. I’m just a little behind on this.
I’m trying to figure it out, so I’m doing some “research.” I started following this guy (on the tweet) who was following me because he knows people that I know and they told two friends and so on. The dude tweets a LOT. 56.25% (give or take .325%) of the time, I have no idea what the flying fuckaroo he is even talking about. It’s business, girlfriend, food, more business and his kid. He tweets like a mofo and his stream of consciousness fascinates me. No lie.
I also follow Jesus_M_Christ, Thrasher Magazine, Alec Baldwin, Severs Snape and the Queen of England. I’m just in it for the yucks. Turns out, this is not typical for the average Twitterbater, especially the mom blogger. I guess Twitter is serious business! Who knew?
From my research, I’ve concluded that I’m not the typical mom blogger at all. I often use really offensive language and indirectly insult others while mocking their weakness as parents (as well as my own). I swear, a LOT. I blog and post all in a span of about 30 minutes, not stopping to edit or do much more than spell check. I don’t have cool graphics or embed a bunch of awesome photos to support my message. A toddler could do the technical stuff better than I could. I’m somewhat lazy and highly distractible. I’m inconsistent and tend to be more general than specific when addressing a topic.
My blogs are shorter than most. I don’t have advertising (aside from the host stuff that I don’t even deal with – thanks Chicagonow!), giveaways, sponsors, or merchandise (well, a few things on Zazzle because people asked). I don’t enter contests and ask for votes. I don’t spam Facebook pages with my links. I don’t have a newsletter or a “society.” I tweet about how much I love meat and how stupid my dogs are and how I can’t find a job and I re-tweet a hodge-podge of tweet from the people I stalk, I mean follow. FOLLOW, is what I meant.
I thought I was doing it wrong. Now I see that I’m just doing it a little different.
I do know that I love to write. I need to write. The same way I need to eat, drink, pee and get sexed up good; I NEED TO WRITE. It actually hurts me that I can’t sit down immediately and write anytime and anywhere. It’s an itch that HAS to be scratched. This is how I feel, so I write.
I also love to promote other writers and use my education and experience to help people. I like making people laugh, that’s good too, but it’s almost too easy. My family is responsible for that, so make sure to thank them for being sloppy and bizarre and frustrating.
I’m one of thousands of Mom bloggers, but I don’t think I’m like them. Not because we are writing about different things or that I think I’m original, nopey nope. That’s not it. I think I’m different because I use the social network to reach out to people, instead of draw them in. I don’t want people to love me as much as I want them to love themselves and nurture their families with laughter and acceptance.
I don’t want to worry about blog traffic, t-shirt sales, accumulating “likes” or votes in blogger contests. I can’t imagine having to adhere to the guidelines of advertisers/sponsors so that I can keep up a revenue stream. FUCK THAT NOISE!
I will say that I’m still going to be a twittering twatster, Facebooker, blogger for the same reasons that I’ve always had; because I love people. I love them. I love to stare at them, smell them, listen to them, try to guess what they are thinking or feeling, and then write about my observations and opinions. They are mine. I don’t want some cereal company telling me that I can’t call someone a jackass if I think they are a jackass.
I like to be able to share things with my audience, and I’ll keep doing so, but as I said today in my Facebook note, I will not be engaging in the blogging ‘BUSINESS’ for the time being. This means that emails to say “hello,” or to send me a funny or a story, are encouraged. I won’t be taking anyone up on offers seeking to partner in business or co-blogging (whatever that means), or honoring requests to promote your blog or business, because I don’t have to! Not just yet.
I want to keep being me. I don’t want to morph into a brand or a stereotype. I’m not saying that other mom bloggers are merely those things. Not at all! I’m a HUGE fan of some really talented and genuine bloggers in all genres. Blogs can be a great way to earn some cold hard cash dollar money, and whoever is doing it and doing it well deserves it! YOU GO GIRLS (and boys)!
When I’m ready, you’ll be the first to know. It won’t be long. I’m just trying to figure it all out, and until I have that “ah ha” moment of understanding and gut feeling that pushes me in a certain direction, I’m going to keep plugging along just the way I have been for the past three years. This all started by accident, so the next step is going to be a bit more thought out. Right now, I’m thinking. Thanks for asking. Thanks for being so patient with me, however if you really want to have a T-shirt, puffy paint works good. MWDAS in puffy paint and glitter would be extra glam. Someday I"ll be ready to roll with the big dogs.
In the meantime, I just want to thank the tech gods for creating the social media platforms that allow me to engage in the business of observing, discovering, enjoying, mocking, entertaining, and sharing, grieving, laughing, learning and all the other ING things with so many other human beINGS. Seriously, who knew that stalking and spending a large chunk of time sharing intimate details of our lives with perfect strangers would become a socially acceptable behavior?
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