Do you think it's OK to be Facebook friends with your EX?
I'm not just talking clicking the Accept Friendship button, I mean like full blown commenting on one another's statuses, looking at pictures and even the occasional Facebook chat.
I mean, where do we draw the line from the accidental bump into your ex at the neighborhood bar to the oh he just accidentally popped up in my news feed so I clicked on his profile--then sent him a message to see how he was doing--excuse.
People, we live in the Facebook world now. Which means we have to transfer real life rules onto the computer. So if having a real life margarita with your ex would be inappropriate, I'm guessing sharing a virtual beer with them in Farmville or wherever the heck you nerds hang out...would be equally as wrong.
It's weird because at one point all of my exes had blocked me on the good ol' book (apparently they had enough crazy polish ladies in their pool of online friends) but now--I think I'm back to being web friendly with most, if not all of them.
But just because I am friends with my exes doesn't mean I necessarily believe that *everyone should start reconnecting with old flings and former lovers.
Clearly if there is trust in a relationship, it shouldn't matter if you are friends with an ex in some sort of online community. I mean--there are minor things you need to clarify like--were you friends with them before you broke up and just never removed them--or did you defriend them only to come crawling back to their inbox. One of those is worse than the other.
As for me, I'm a naturally nosy chatty person and don't mind seeing what my former boyfriends are up to. I mean--they were in my life at one point for a reason--right? (obviously I was the key step in landing them into their current successful relationship). And besides, if I had still had any feelings for them I wouldn't want to be friends with them online because it would still hurt me to see them living their own life, without me. So I kind of think that being friends with your exes is not only a mature thing to do--but also shows you are completely over them.
Now--if my husband were to go searching for one of his exes to add her on Facebook today, that would weird me out. Actually, I would despise it. And if one of his exes stalked him out--I would probably call her a slew of filthy names including but not limited to--psycho, whore bag and lard bucket.
Anyways--trust your partner and let them be friends with an ex. Just don't let them chat too much. But on the same note--have some respect, if they specifically ask you not to be friends with an ex on the book, I would oblige. That is unless you want to be denied sex for the following month. Then again, there probably is an App for that on Facebook.
JENNYMILK
I encourage all of my exes to become friends with me here at Milkin' it. Your current GF will never know.
Oh hey, it's even less conspicuous if you follow JennyMilk on Twitter
*my husband
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Tags: ex, exboyfriend, exgirlfriend, facebook, facebook friends, facebook friends with an ex, facebook stalking, talking to an ex
