The Gift of a Cooked Meal

It’s 4:35 as I type this.  Most afternoons, this would be on the early side of me figuring out what should be for dinner.  Pffft.  Who am I kidding?  I don’t really start doing that until 5:30 or so.  (Alright, alright, 6 o’clock.  Sheesh.) But tonight I’m not worried about dinner at all.  Nor was... Read more »

It's 4/20! Time to Embrace My Inner Squirrel

April 20, or 4/20 as the cool kids like to call it, is that single day of the year when I am reminded, again and again, just what a squirrel I really am.  For the record, a squirrel, in my book, is a person who, while not sheltered, hasn’t really participated in the, um, well,... Read more »

The Call

A few hours ago the phone rang.  Typically, this is not a big deal.  Six o’clock, cooking dinner, the telemarketers know and use this time to reach you at home.  Except this wasn’t a telemarketer, it was my Dad.  And my Dad, as of one week ago, is on hospice care.  I literally cannot remember... Read more »

You Are My Sunshine

You are my sunshine, my only sunshine  You make me happy when skies are gray. There is not a mother or child in my orbit that does not know the lyrics to this song. My guess is that even reading those words above, you are singing it, on tune, inside your head.  It appears coded... Read more »

Lost and Found in Paradise

If you take out the religious overlay of the concept of paradise, it is defined as, “an ideal or idyllic place or state.”  So it is both a location, geography, and a feeling, or our internal geography, if you will. Last December I had the privilege of joining three other families in the geographical paradise... Read more »

Room to Mother: Some Thoughts on Adoption

I’ve been writing this post for about 15 months now.  It’s about adoption and adoption is complicated.  I mean, I always knew that, but I didn’t always know that.  And as time passes and I acknowledge my own naivete on the subject and how that naivete has shaped our own adoption, well, it’s been challenging.... Read more »

The Lion and the Lamb

I’ve written about spring before.  I do it every year, actually, as I feel so profoundly grateful and moved to share that gratitude by pounding it out on the keyboard.  Thank you, spring!  Thank you, warmth!  Thank you, lions and lambs!  I love you, both, but damn if I don’t feel moved to tears and... Read more »

Donna Day 2015: Another Day, Another Child, Another Dollar

Today is Donna Day — it’s the fourth annual Donna Day, actually.  Donna Day is a made up thing, really, but then again, what special day isn’t?  At one point, Valentine’s Day was just February 14 and Mother’s Day was one gal’s idea to honor her own mother who had just died.  So, yes, Donna... Read more »

Looking at Donna

At the top of our stairs is a digital frame that we got just a few days after Donna died.  We wanted something for the memorial service to show our favorite photos of Donna.  Her little four year old life, from birth to death, captured on an electronic screen. The photos have never changed.  Several... Read more »

Who Are Your Anchors?

When times are rough and the Universe keeps beating you or the people you love up, I have learned to reach out for my anchors.  My anchors are those folks in my life that ground me, love me, comfort me, support me, cheer me — the ones that don’t go away. They are rooted and... Read more »