Me, myself and I -- and how to use them

Me, myself and I -- and how to use them

When you're talking or writing about yourself and someone else are you careful about using "me" or "I"?

If my ears and eyes are any indicators, few people are. So here's an easy reminder of how to judge which one to use. It takes just a second to check.

You're going to a concert with someone else -- so do you use "My date and I" or "my date and me"?

All you need to do is take the other person out -- imagine going alone. (Steady, it's just a grammatical idea.) You would say or write "I'm going to the concert," not -- can I even type this? -- "Me am going to the concert," so it's "My date and I are going to the concert."

Yes, you would say "He/she is taking me to the concert," but the "me" is there because it's the object of the verb, not the subject. He/she is doing the taking. If you talk about going together, then He/she and I will be correct -- both of you are the object of "going."

Myself is trickier, usually emphatic, and it should be rare. You two go ahead to the concert -- I'm not going, myself. That emphasizes that I'm not going. (So does"Go alone? Take myself to the concert?")

But please, not "He is taking myself to the concert." It's not a way around the  I/me confusion. Not the correct way, anyway.

I think I've solved it -- but not all by myself. I had good teachers and remember what they taught.

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