Last week, I lost my middle sister to natural causes according to what the medical examiner told my oldest sister over the phone; she was only 55 years old. Moreover, the examiner said that she passed away from cardiovascular disease.
When my oldest sister went to my deceased sister's apartment, she noticed that she had The Cranberries CD in her CD player. The lead singer of the group Dolores O'Riordan passed away also so when she told me that, it was like a punch in the gut. I think my sister probably liked The Cranberries because O'Riordan's vocals were strong like her favorite singing duo Heart. Although I didn't see my sister much, I made sure that every year for her birthday I would post her favorite song by them called "Barracuda" on Facebook.
This is the first death in my immediate family and there are mixed emotions. Of course, my mom don't know what to do and how to feel. I told her not to try to feel something that is not there; my sister's death will hit you sooner or later. I never understood why funerals tear families apart. They should bring families together. I guess people have so many opinions on how things should go, yet is not contributory to the cause.
It's bittersweet that I'm writing my sister's eulogy. If it wasn't for her, I wouldn't be writing at all. My fondest memory of her is when she would play school with me and my cousins on my grandmother's back porch. She was excellent at modern dance, loved yoga, spoke several languages without being taught and was quite the prankster.
This is how I want to remember her. I have no choice because she left home in her teens and became a free spirit so I wasn't familiar with the adult version of her. So many years would go by and she would pop up here and there but for the most part, people we knew would say they saw her and we would be relieved to know that she was alive.
This time, my sister, we didn't receive a good report. However, God knows what He's doing and all we can do as an immediate family is to ask God for grace and wisdom on how to handle you with care and dignity.
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