The most wonderful thing you can do for yourself is to be yourself. We all have had people we looked up to as role models or idols, whether it was a celebrity, friend, or a relative. However, there comes a time when you have to stand on your own and evaluate who you are and what your strengths are.
For those who have a rough time getting started on their journey of self-awareness and great self-esteem, should first and foremost understand that they are living in the best era to achieve their dreams. There are so many opportunities today than twenty years ago, but you have to do your homework.
Most of us are not in that 1% group, such as those born with a silver spoon, hit the mega-millions lottery, or living off of their deceased Uncle Lou's multimillion dollar estate (by the way, they never met Uncle Lou). These cases may seem nice and to be envied but I can assure you that obtaining things not based on merit and hard work, the above people are doomed to squander what they have.
Being yourself means letting go of people, places, and things that are not building you up. It would be great to have cheerleaders and if you don't, it's only because the people who you are looking for approval from does not understand your ambition. It can also mean that they are afraid of being left behind.
Human nature craves attention so there is nothing wrong with feeling sad when you don't receive the accolades you desire. Being yourself involves developing a thick skin in order to deal with this.
Being yourself is being realistic about your current season in life. There is an old saying "Don't write a check you can't cash", meaning don't live beyond your means. Reality shows are good bait for the empty-minded, leading them to get in unnecessary debt trying to look like the individuals on the show. Those of us who are 40+ engaging in this activity should know better and get a grip.
Learning who you are is an on-going task. I say task because it is a chore to drown out the negative while trying to accentuate the positive.
But it's a great chore once you get the hang of it.
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