"Write about a time you told a lie."
So goes our blogging group's monthly writing exercise. And all I could think was, "A lie? As in one? I'm a daughter, sister, wife and a mother. C'mon ..."
While I'm certainly not an advocate for being untruthful, I'm also of the belief there are lies of necessity. Of course you are going to tell a friend you like their new haircut, or your mother that you're eating healthy, or your husband that the dinner was spectacular. Lies can be, in my opinion, OK from time to time.
The ones I hate? Those I tell myself.
Sometimes, the day-to-day of marriage, family, career and life in general means survival mode and survival mode means telling yourself a few whoppers.
"I'm not tired."
"I'll work out tomorrow."
"Cereal three nights in a row is OK for dinner. Everyone does that."
"Next year, I will do those Christmas cards. I mean it."
"I can put off the mammogram another month."
"The milk only sat out for two hours, I'm sure it's fine."
"I'll catch up with my friends next time."
"It's just a phase."
I can do this."
I wish the moment we all birthed those babies the hospital passed out stacks of "You got this" cards you would then be required to pass out to friends and family before your kid hits 18. Cards that serve as a free pass for when you can't do this. I know I'm not the only mom that is lying from time to time to just to keep it together.
Wouldn't is be nice to be able to just fall apart without the consequence of, you know ... it all falling apart? I'm not talking about a checking out for long enough to move to an artists' colony for six months and write a novel. I just want to take a bath, meet friends for drinks and catch a flick on a semi-regular basis.
Until then, we'll just keep on keeping on. Or, fake it 'til you make it. I can do this. I should get on those Christmas cards now.
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