Pamela Duckerman’s new book, There Are No Grown-ups A Midlife Coming-of-Age Story, notes Victor Hugo referred to 40, “As the old age of youth.”
Data shows thirty-somethings reach traditional milestones at slower rates than 40 years ago. As someone who soon turns 40, the last decade reinforced the importance of kindness, humility, and determination.
Women in their thirties may appreciate the occasional kindness of strangers who call them, “Miss” or “Young lady.” On a more serious note, a dear friend reminds loved ones to be nice since, “Everyone has a story.”
Brene Brown recently elaborated that story "will break your heart. And, if you're really paying attention, most people have a story that will bring you to your knees."
Despite a stranger or acquaintance’s smile, they probably endure their own struggles. Every ethical responsibility matters. Do your best.
Our family recently befriend a pool’s life guard on vacation. Although she seemed too young to have kids, she turns 40 next week. While she helps support and guide her three boys, she protects hotel guests and their families in the water.
Some thirty-year-old’s strength and resilience inspire you. A young and beautiful friend, corporate leader, room Mom, and more, recently endured a double mastectomy and continues chemo treatment. She still arrived smiling to a meet-up with a wagon full of water balloons for our boys plus kid and adult beverages.
As change remains constant, we should humbly remain aware of our world. We strive to follow our friend’s example who bravely evolves with grace and courage to defeat cancer.
Similar to our rock star friend, the thirties may prime some people to juggle more demanding family and career responsibilities.
Our school families appreciate some moms, who feel fortunate to raise their families full time and generously volunteer. Other single friends and family members generously love their nieces and nephews. Some 30-something people pursue passions that may range from world travel to their devout faith.
Pamela Duckerman’s book mentions how the philosopher Carl Jung suggests many shed their ego in their thirties for their self to emerge. Can that manifest itself as creative passion? Some of my husband’s oil paintings created during his thirties, decorate our family home.
Props to a writer friend, Julie Hammerele, who published her first young author books in her thirties. And, thanks to Julie and my husband whose awesome voices rule at karaoke while I bust out old school dance moves.
Hopefully, the first few decades help people develop more confidence and grounded perspective to be kind, humble, and focus. To paraphrase Nora Ephron, re-frame your narrative to be the hero rather than the victim. As my seven and five-year-old boys coach during sports, “You got this!”
Any words of wisdom?