"Life is precious," one of my friends texted me last weekend. She buried her innocent 20-something brother a few years ago. We're now grieving the loss of our best friend's brother who just passed away of natural causes.
I was shocked and saddened to get the news last Saturday. Although I was in the midst of work stress, this tragedy brought profound perspective. I feel very grateful for time with loved ones, especially those who now rest in peace.
Each time I visit or pass Saint Alphonsus Church near us in Chicago, I say a prayer for my friend (whose brother just passed away) and her Mom whose funeral was also there recently. I remember their beautiful wedding ceremony at that church. Now, I picture her kind and loving brother, our dear friend, whose funeral was there yesterday.
There are so many tender photos of him in my Facebook feed that I remember from their family living room.
His strong and loving family will always remind me of him, a wonderful brother, son, uncle and friend to name just a few of his roles.
I can't imagine the loss their family must feel.
They are all so strong, but I hope they take a break from their sadness. As they spend days together, I imagine there is laughter between their tears and sweet stories.
I wish their brother and family eternal peace as they hopefully take a break from the sadness.
Below are some tips from Loss, Changes and Grief for families who loose a loved one too soon and are grieving.
- Maintain a normal routine. Even if it is difficult to do regular activities, try to anyway. Putting more structure into a daily routine will help one to feel more in control.
- Get enough sleep, at least plenty of rest.
- It may be helpful to keep lists, write notes, or keep a schedule.
- Try and get some regular exercise. This can help relieve stress and tension.
- Keep a balanced diet. Watch out for junk food, or high calorie comfort food binges.
- Drink plenty of water.
- Drink alcohol in moderation. Alcohol should not be used as a way of masking the pain.
- Do what comforts, sustains & recharges.
- Remember other difficult times and how you have survived them. Draw upon the inner strength.
- Take it one hour at a time, one day at a time.
Love and prayers to one of my dearest friends and her family during this time and always. I know they're doing the best they can...
And, there are more of these "Taking a break" stories from This blogger life. Thanks to our ChicagoNow managers Jimmy Greenfield and Shavon Banket for the inspiration.
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