I think that, right now especially, there's a lot of contention about whether or not it's okay to say certain words in the LGBTQ community, and what context you should (or should not) say them in.
You've most likely heard of the "Don't Say Gay" bills in Missouri and Tennessee. The Tennessee DSG bill has recently been axed, but the one in Missouri hasn't gone away yet. The basic, brilliant idea behind this bill is to prevent schools from teaching or discussing any version of sexuality besides the hetero kind. Wonderful, isn't it?
The "Don't Say Gay" bill, coupled with an interesting debate that took place in the Facebook branch of the LGBTQ Connection has been my inspiration this week. There seems to be a divide over whether it's okay for members of the LGBTQ community to say "gay," as in "what's the gayest thing you did today/this week?" The question has been posed in our group, in a playful, lighthearted manner more than once. Responses range from snake wrangling to the kind of music being listened to. Recently, it was suggested that to ask such a question is insulting and demeaning. Is it?
So far, there are two pretty clear points of view on the issue. The first is that some see it as insulting and offensive. The other POV is that by saying "gay" in a safe space, in a lighthearted manner, we are taking the negative, hateful, discriminatory power away from derogative uses of the word "gay" and other similar words.
What do you think? Where do you stand on this issue? Now, more than ever, this is a serious and critical time to be thinking about matters such as this. The less we talk, and the more we turn to apathy or ambivalence, the more likely we are to watch what we have worked for as a community and as a minority slip just out of our reach.