Beyonce: On Acceptance, Healing, The Black Effect, Spirituality, and Freedom

Beyonce: On Acceptance, Healing, The Black Effect, Spirituality, and Freedom

imageBy: Reginald Di'onne, Guest Blogger

Beyonce is no spring chicken when it comes to serving refreshments, with a little lemon, concocting lemonade.The 36 year old singer shows us yet again how she turns lemons into lemonade by revealing her truths in Vogue’s 2018 September magazine. Gaining a lot of weight after giving birth, Queen Bey confesses that she embraces her FUPA (Fat Upper Pussy Area). If that's not surprising, she also opens up about having toxemia, a disease that almost cost her and the twins lives. So many barriers have been broken due to her success, and she’s now in the space to open up doors for other artists. Researching her family roots she then learned why male-female energy are able to coexist in her blood for the first time, which she explains why God gave her twins. Here's why Beyonce's revelations  is something that a lot of us need as a mirror so that we can begin to accept and heal the scars and the traumas to move forward in life.

ACCEPTANCE  Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and be who you are.

The first time most of us heard of a FUPA was during an episode of Basketball Wives: Season 3 when one of the wives were confronted about having one. Of course, it was looked at as shade or a  read because it's offensive to call out someone's flaws. After having health scarcities, taking on a different route of accepting her new body was a priority. I'm pretty sure that her first step of accepting her body was realizing that she was in fight or flight mode to saving herself, so image wasn't important. Beyonce discuss how crazy it was  going on tour four months after having Blue, her first born, to assure that she could lose the weight. But after having the twins it was different this time around. “Whenever I’m ready to get a six pack, I will go into beast zone and work my ass off until then I have it. But right now, my little FUPA and I feel like we are meant to be.” when you are able to own your flaws like Beyonce did about her own FUPA , then we automatically take the power back.

According to, “New Statistics Reveal the Shape of Plastic Surgery,” there have been 2% increase of tummy tucks since 2016. On the other hand, celebrities, women and men do it simply because society pressures us to  be thin, to be bootylicious and makes it look cool to have a flat tummy. The singer could have easily gotten a tummy tuck after she healed from her pregnancies, but she stayed true to the way her body wanted to form. Now that the 36 year old arms, stomach, legs are “fuller” which is okay, because she still wakes up flawlessly with a man and children who embraces her new body. If people of this generation can only began to understand the importance of embracing our body, hair, nails, personalities natural states we can learn to appreciate ourselves and others

  HEALING:  During my recovery, I gave myself self-love and self-care, and I embraced being curvier.

“I was 218 pounds the day I gave birth to Rumi and Sir. I was swollen from toxemia and had been on bed rest for over a month. My health and my babies’ health were in danger, so I had an emergency C-section. We spent many weeks in the NICU.” On a human aspect, the shit can be scary because now you're in survival mode to save the life of you and your child. Beyonce talks  about how she self catered and self-loved on her self by embracing herself and temporarily becoming a vegan after giving birth. This time around she also gave time to go back to work, Coachella being her first show nearly a year after giving birth.

Many of us go through traumas that cause us pain and a lot of us go years without healing. Erykah Badu once expressed that we all are born having a clean tray, as time go on shit gets dumped on it and we don't clean it. If we learn to clean our trays when life dumps shit on our trays we would be mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically healthier. Beyonce shows us how healing is important by giving herself time to heal and embrace the aftermath of a catastrophe moment.

The Black Effect: “Imagine if someone hadn’t given a chance to the brilliant women who came before me: Josephine Baker, Nina Simone, Eartha Kitt, Aretha Franklin, Tina Turner, Diana Ross, Whitney Houston, and the list goes on. They opened the doors for me, and I pray that I’m doing all I can to open doors for the next generation of talents.”

“When I first started, 21 years ago, I was told that it was hard for me to get onto covers of magazines because black people did not sell. Clearly that has been proven a myth.” Since then, the mother of snatching wigs has been on plethora of magazines, winning countless awards, selling out stadiums, breaking many records being the first black female of many of those categories. In Vogue, she elaborates how she's in the space of opening up doors for artists. This reason being, as she describes is so that art won’t be seen in a narrow view. If we have the same people from the same spectrum of life, then we will have the same outlook. She has already opened up doors for many artists, by having an all black women band. And to add to the list she hired the first ever black photographer, Tyler Mitchell, to shoot this September Vogue spread.

Imagine if we lived in a world where there were never a James Brown, Tina Turner, or Michael Jackson. We wouldn't have a lot of our musical favorites today. Those older artists paved the way showing younger artists to be bold. Beyond art it's important that we see people who look like us in any field. Black doctors, lawyers, teachers, or even sculptors would be a great example. It is up to us as  people to continue to press pass all of the naysayers and believe that whatever we set our minds to we can do anything. By believing we must continue to build our own platforms so that we can build a legacy to open up doors for people who has different outlooks like Beyonce is doing.

Spirituality: “Connecting to the past and knowing our history makes us both bruised and beautiful.”

Sankofa is a word of Akan, meaning we must go back to reclaim our past so we can move forward, so we can understand why and how we came to be who we are today. Knowles researches her family line and learns that she comes from a background where a slave owner falls in love and marries a slave. Inherently coming from a place of broken male-female relationships has become a curse. As we discovered the infidelity in her marriage, for once she reveals that breaking the curse is important so that her kids will have simpler lives. Also,  generalizing this information has helped her marriage and why god gave her twins thats male and female.

This truth is an epitome of why we should dig deeper within ourselves and our families so that we can begin to rewire our brains, then we can begin to break every chain. If we’re  in tune with the world around us, we will start to see the same patterns being recycled in ourselves and our  families. Maybe it can be alcohol or drug addictions, bad eating habits, or father not being in the picture. If we choose to be wise enough to seek the stem of the problem, we can dig the problem out and weed out any bad things, breaking every curse so our lives can be simpler.

Freedom: I don’t like too much structure. I like to be free.

It's very detrimental for an artist to feel free. For all to be free. “I don’t like too much structure. I like to be free. I’m not alive unless I am creating something. I’m not happy if I’m not creating, if I’m not dreaming, if I’m not creating a dream and making it into something real. I’m not happy if I’m not improving, evolving, moving forward, inspiring, teaching, and learning.”  This statement is what I believe what it means to be alive; or be a soul. If anyway shape or form we stop learning and dreaming, we will  become stagnant; because we are here to grow and seek knowledge, we must continue to relight what sparks our souls, so that our souls can expand and grow.

So we must continue to live in a space of hope. The Social Forces stated that only 6% of adults only pursue the careers that they wanted as a child. That being said, take Beyonce words and keep creating, inspiring and dreaming; because her career shows what it looks like to live out loud and bold.

Beyonce Knowles Carter gives us some life gems that has helped her along her journey with the help of truths and revelations. To alway be able to accept your flaws in everything like body issues to FUPAs. And heal the parts of you so that you can be able to move forward in a healthy way. She shows us the importance of opening doors for the next generation so that art can have many spectrums and colors. Spirituality can be used for a place of understanding of how you are, where you come from, and where you are going. Lastly, freedom is the space and a necessity for people so that we, too, can explore our souls in every way possible.


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