For My Two Star Crossed Lovers

Sorry readers, but this post is for two very special people in my life. I have advised them separately and together on many things involving their relationship in the past few months I have gotten to know them better. They were recently hit with a brick wall, but I feel it is a wall in the obstacle course called life. Life gives us many things to learn, grow, achieve and grasp, but never does one prepare you for love.

Love is one of those things many of us in the lifestyle find impossible because so many personalities clash that it feels like you are trying to stick the square peg in a round hole, but when it comes to playtime you both are the square peg and the square hole.

The love my friends share is something read to little girls as they prepare for bed and dream of as they grow older. That movie love you wish you could have, like Ingrid Bergman and Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca, or like my favorite married couple of all time Humphrey Bogart and Lauren Becall. They bring tears to my eyes every time I watch them in To Have and Have Not.

To my friends, you are both very lucky. You are both my vary dear vanilla friends and I knew you both loved each other the moment I met you. From the bright smiles you both have on your face when you talk about the other when they aren't present, to that little glint in your eyes when you look up towards the sky thinking about that last silly moment you had as you tell me the story.

You both share a very positive energy around you and this is good for someone like me. The moment I touched A when she hugged me, I felt the energy that connected us together as friends. When B touched me, I could feel that he had nothing but love in his heart for all, but a very special place that seemed to be surrounded by A's glow.

As I grew to know them better, before they found out who I was, I told them both I knew they loved each other more then I have ever felt in my life. I am the type of person that surrounds myself with many friends that are of the positive nature, but none have been as positive for me as well as themselves as A and B have been.

I want you both to know that I am here for you any time you need me. I am reachable at any time of the day and you both have all ways of contacting me. I also know that I can depend on you both just as much, and trust me I will be asking for lots of advice as well as giving it.

I want you both to stop worrying. This is just a stepping stone in life's garden and you just need to take it one step at a time. Sometimes it might feel like you are playing Chutes and Ladders, a few times it might feel like you are following the yellow brick road and going through the creepy forest with the flying monkeys, but in the end you will find your way to the magnificent rainbow that lies before you. I see nothing but good things for your future.

I just ask that you remember a few very important things:
Nothing in life is ever perfect. When you find yourselves mad at each other COMMUNICATE what is wrong, hear each other out, remember that if it is not life or death it is not as important as you think, and agree to disagree. Life is far too short to be mad at each other as I have parents that spent four to six months living in the same home, sleeping in separate rooms and not talking to each other. I do not want you both to end up that way.

Always go to bed snuggled in each others arms for the the evening, show how much you care for the other person (even if it is a pot-it note stuck to the bathroom mirror), and always remember that no matter how mad you are at each other, your love out weights all that could be bad.

Life is a two way street with many bends, turns, and sometimes a few misdirected detours. Some say grab a map and plot your life's course, I say screw the map! Hit the road and see where life takes you! After all, life is a journey and it only begins once you have taken that first step.

There is no such thing as compromise, as my mother has tole me time and time again. The way we see compromise these days, someone is still making a sacrifice for the others happiness. Do not ever give up what makes you happy for the happiness of your loved one. If you choose to do one's activity and put the other off, remember to go back and both do the activity that the other did not want to do. Why should one sacrifice their needs for those of another? Love is about opposites attracting each other, right? Thing things that make you both different are the things that should draw you both closer together. The only times I would say this would not apply is when it comes to things that cannot be reversed, things that could cause permanent damage and things that could end a life.

Now I want you both to know that you are made for each other, kind of why A and B popped into my head as I was writing this. You are both two peas in a pod. One of you is the missing glove to the others pair. That missing sock that you think the dryer monster has eaten. Two star crossed lovers that were on two different paths until fate decided that your lives needed to come together. There is a reason that fate has brought you both together, that life your lives have taken the turns it has, and why you both were brought into my life. I am glad that I have gotten to know you both over these past few months.

Soon you will start your journey together and remember to take it one step at a time so neither of you trip.

I love you both!
MJ

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