50 Shades Creating Infidelity?

Ok, usually I just stick to the sites I know well and deal with the scum later as I weed through ones that are truly submissive and those just looking to stroke a bit and cum later on when they get all the dirty little details of a scene with me. I get tired of it, drop off the face of the earth, then come back in a few months to see if the coast is clear. Of course the coast is never clear, the scum still floats on the pond, and you still have to wade through it to get to the other side. Today I decided that I was going to check out a couple of sites recommended by friends, one is the Reader (apparently they have a kinky hook-up personals) and Craigs List. Today I pick on Craigs List.

So I get a log in for Craigs List and start looking at the personals and search m4w submissive. First of all, I have yet to get my grubby fucking hands on a copy of the 50 Shades trilogy that I have heard is full of dribble that is not even close to what we really feel, see and do in the lifestyle, but the fact that I type in "50 Shades" as a search option I get 17 posts since August 30th. Really?

Yes, REALLY! Many of the men posting this dribble are 35 to 60 in age and I am pretty sure many of them are just looking to get their dick wet by some woman that has very little in regards to brains. Either that or these men really think women believe there is really a Christian Grey out there for us ladies. I am not opposed to getting your dick wet men, but do you have to use a book to get it? The other odd thing about some of these profiles is they are looking for older women. You are 60 and want someone that is in their 70's? As the female version of Christian Grey (from what I have been told) I believe I would go younger not older if I was a man. As a woman I like them older, they are wiser, more experienced and they have PATIENCE!

This is an opening to one such post of a man looking to get his dick wet:
Headline reads: Your Personal 50 Shades -
"Did "50 Shades" awaken your submissive desires or have you always known? Is there something secretly submissive in you that hasn't been satisfied? Are you looking for a dominant man to take control of you? You are a well-educated, successful professional woman. Strong and smart, a force in your profession. Yet these fantasies you have - this desire to submit to a dominant man remain largely unfulfilled. Are you having trouble reconciling your desires with your sensibilities? That's a normal reaction to these feelings. Submission comes from trust -- with trust, the true power exchange can take place where you can let go and live out those fantasies, realize your deepest, darkest desires. You may be single, you may be married, but the man or men in your life aren't capable, or willing, to take you to this place. Let me, an experienced, dominant man be your guide. I will take you on this journey as slowly or as quickly as you are comfortable with. We will not do anything without first discussing and then setting limits. We will let your fantasies be the guide. I am an older white professional, 5'10", 195 pounds. I am open to race or body size. I am not looking for a full time relationship -- this is for D/s sessions only. If this is something you are looking for, please reply with some insight into what you are truly after. One line responses or responses that are not specific to this post will be deleted. I am serious, you be serious too.

I am sorry but my submissive side was brought out when I read Belinda by Anne Rice. It was later awakened when I read The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy, by Anne Rice as well. These books also awoke the dark goddess (something one of my boys calls me) inside me. going through life you know whether you are dominant or submissive, it is not something that is just fueled by a book. The book awakens the desire but does not tell you that as a woman you should be bowing down to every man you see.

This guys personals ad reads like a bad infomercial one would watch at 4am on any channel if you have insomnia! All the "Are you..." makes me feel like they are trying to sell you something you do not want but thanks to the commercial you really, really need now!

Personally, when I was much younger and naive,  I always thought women were to be the submissive ones and do as they are told and when in a vanilla relationship I did everything for my bf at the time. Yeah that quickly changed when I realized that I was not submissive. I am a Fire Dragon, I have a burning fire inside of me that is insatiable. Lately I have found this to be very true and the Wise One (63 years old) tells me that my fire burns bright.

As I got older and deeper into the BDSM lifestyle I started to learn that many people in this world, mostly men, will use anything to get sex from a person they are interested in (men or women).  Out of the 17 posts I have found just today, 6 of these profiles are from attached men (either married or dating) and some seem to be multiple postings for the same guy (you can tell by the body of the post).

Do men think they can get away with this kind of cheating? They all say discreet play, respecting boundaries, etc. I am sorry but as a woman in this lifestyle I know there is no real discreet way of playing. Bruises happen, marks come about, and how are you going to explain not only the paddle mark you have, but the fact that your cock now smells like massage oils that you would never find in a massage parlor?

There is one post from a 55 yo DWM that does make me want to write him because he understands that this is not about sex, it is about romance, spicing things up and keeping one on their toes. Headline is: Meet a guy that understands the insight to 50 Shades of Grey - I guarantee you that most men do not get it when it comes to the D/s relationship like 50 shades of Grey. To me a woman that is interested in this type of play is one of the most romantic and needs to be paired with another romantic not a guy just looking for another way into your panties.. I will let you know what transpires when I message him. As I forwarded his profiles to my email, one of the security words that came up was surrendered, ironic isn't it?

So to say the least, 50 Shades is certainly stirring the pot these days for infidelity, what will it be tomorrow? Check out the posts I selected just for my readers and you tell me what is wrong. I did not make any changes to their posts so bad grammar and spelling were left alone. Yes Chicago (and everyone else that reads) these are real CL's posts in the Chicago area!:

A "Discreet"- Christian Grey-50 Shades Type?? Try Me!!! - Maybe the best CL has to offer
Looks, intelligence, sensual, discreet
I am also attached, so must respect one anothers boundaries...
Curious, interested.....??????
reply by telling me something about you-:)

Really, you are the best Craig's List has to offer? I am starting to think no on this one!

50 Shades of Gray--Discreet Fun--Sound Interesting?? - Very Attractive Attached White Male seeks Discreet Female for ongoing Fun. Will not disappoint, so much potential for fun.............
Are you looking for more, bored in your present relationship???? Maybe, probably, then waht are you waiting for???
Clean, Safe, Respectful, Fun...........

If you have to tell me you are attractive this means you might look good but you really have the heart of a toad. If you are good looking then prove it by posting a photo. Oh right, you are cheating so there will be no photos. If you have to say you will not disappoint this means you are going to fail somewhere, she just needs to ask the right questions!

Christian Grey-50 Shades-Sounds Appealing? Discreet and Married-Nice!! -
Normal/Nice/Fun/Discreet/Intelligent/Exceptional Looks
50 Shades Captured your attention??
Selective, and will like to have one ongoing relationship not to interfere with one's home life
Put "September" in your reply to get a response

Again, do you need to tell us that you are good looking? I am starting to think the use of the term DISCREET automatically means you are cheating so you can probably skip the "Married" part in your headline. Appealing? I like the old way becoming the new way of saying I am attractive. I am still waiting for a photo to be posted!

50 shades of our dark side - Now thanks to that best selling book maybe we can be honest about the ever present dark side to our fantasies, thinking and play that is looking for a partner that is ready willing and experienced in this adult play. Now there are some men that can play with a woman at the drop of a hat but that is not me. I seem to be a monogamous man that when it is time to play I am connected to the woman I am with. I have played these adult games in the past and will take both of us on a exciting journey that your friends will be envious of you if your girl talk turns that way. I have also explored both sides of the paddle so that I know what I am putting you through and the meaning of what a submissive is giving of themselves in this type of adult play. So I am seeking an adventurous woman in the bedroom or a woman that now is able to let go and explore that dark side that we all have with a partner that she will also find fun to be with, smart, tall, non smoker, spiritual, playful, good conversationalist, and a guy next door type in the vanilla world but we can find surprises there also. If you respond please change subject line to (adult play in a relationship) and be a mature woman over 40.

So you are saying that women honest with their dark side until they read 50 Shades? Wow! I guess I am not really a Domme, I never really served as a submissive a few years ago and everything in my life is a lie now because I have nor read these ridiculous books. I guess  the Wise One is wrong when he calls me the Dark Goddess sine I have not read the books yet. Oh poo!

Fascinated W/ 50 Shades of Gray?--We should Talk!--Must be Discreet!! - Very good looking-Attached-Fun---- all describe me
Intrigued by the book?? Maybe we can explore some of what's in the book
Educated Professional, nice, normal, respectful, and so much more...............
We all can use some more excitement, hopefully we connect

Again with the attractive, attached and discreet. Photo please? *Waits patiently* Arrogance is high with these men don't you think ladies? Someone might want to take them down a peg. I think I should post a personal ad and see what kind of responses I get. I would not be surprised if most of it is spam and those looking for a nooner or a quickie before a dinner meeting. Let the games begin!

Say delicious Chicago!

Mistress Julie

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