The Engineer

Have you ever tried a "vanilla" dating site and find men that want to pamper you with clothes, shoes, bath items, perfumes and maybe even an exotic trip? You might have stumbled upon a guy that is a bit submissive.

In my vanilla life I have tried dating non-kinky men but I find them boring in bed, even if they are working with all 8 cylinders. I have profiles on a variety of sites and I find it funny that within two brief emails I can find out if he is submissive or not. Eventually I will ask the question "So are you kinky and if so are you a bottom or sub?" Sometimes this leads to a discussion on sex, which i try to avoid if at all possible, or it leads to learning more about the guy and how he had gotten into the lifestyle.

I have a profile on a couple of kinky "dating" sites that have turned up a couple of potential subs. First one I will call EnglishBoy and the other I shall call the Engineer. Today we shall discuss the Engineer.

I had met the Engineer through one of the many sites out there for BDSM. We exchanged a couple of correspondences on the site and decided to exchange YIM information. After a couple of days, and a couple of drinks with friends on a Saturday, I decided to ditch the party and meet with him and see if there might be some compatibility in a vanilla setting before ever deciding to cart my bag full of goodies to his place. Safety first and foremost when it comes to playing and this includes meeting strangers.

The Engineer seemed like a very nice guy, we met at a bar near his place for drinks and have a casual conversation. I could tell he seemed a bit smitten with the idea of playing. After a couple of hours I felt there was not much more to say so we left the bar and he walked me back to the train. Instead of heading right back home we opted to sit outside of the train station and converse a little more. He was quite attractive and if I had my bag with me I might have opted to walk back to his place and get down to business. Instead I said goodnight and headed home.

Sunday I had plans with a boy that has a foot fetish and decided to text and let him come over while I was deciding what to do about the Engineer. The Engineer made plans for the following Sunday for me to come over and have a little scene. Through out the week I had casual conversations with him as well as toying with his mind over the various things that I was into and had lots of experience in as well as digging for information about his kinks or fetishes.

The Engineer and I have a playmate kind of deal set up, which means there will be limited sexual contact (no whoowhoo dillies in this chacha, I am sure there are some South Park fans here that know what this means). We play with light bondage, chastity, orgasm control, restricted eye contact (blindfolds as well as not allowing your partner to look upon you), CBT (Cock and Ball Torture), anal orgasms, as well as humiliation.

The Saturday before we were to get together I gave him a brief description of how he was to be dressed and how to present himself to me. I text him as I was walking to his place so he knew I was on my way and he could not dilly dally anymore. I rang his bell, he left the door unlocked for me and I proceeded to enter. At the door he was kneeling as I had told him to, head bowed and naked. I gave a quick inspection and then proceeded to unpack my things as he stayed there kneeling.

We played for about 3 hours that night and I had a ball. He had a ball as well, but it was stuffed in his mouth most of the time. This was his first time in a chastity device and it was also the first time he has experienced an anal orgasm. He was not into pain, but I did give him quite a few smacks on his bottom with my bare hand for his snarky remarks during the week, which I did tell him he would be punished for.

Overall we did have a good time, which is important when you are playing with someone whether it is your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend. There are many out there in the world that are more concerned with protocol and procedures (Gorean lifestyle), but they forget that at the end of it all both parties should feel satisfied whether it is mental, physical or sexual.

Due to busy schedules, me with a boy from Denver (see the boy in the right in rope, that is him) in town and the Engineer with work and sports related activities, we have not been able to play again. We do keep in contact daily and I am sure we shall get together again as soon as we both have a day that will work. You can be sure I will post about the return play and maybe a little more detail. I do not want to get too graphic since this is my first post, so please forgive me if I keep this kind of PG for awhile till I know what my limits are.

Until next time, stay delicious Chicago!

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    Mistress Julie

    I have been in the Chicago BDSM scene for a little over 12 years. I am not serious like many people are, but I also do not take what I do lightly. I have dabbled in many kinky things and currently working on perfecting my bondage techniques. My main goal is to bring the BDSM scene to vanillas that are interested in it in a non-freaky way. This is not only a blog about what I am doing or have done but a place for you to ask questions and hopefully learn more about the scene then what you think is real in porn. Trust me, porn is not real!

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