My First "Public Discussion" On Male Chastity

The first time I was asked to give a discussion on my experience with male chastity was at a local dungeon because the original presenter was not able to make it in town for some reason or another. The guy I was dating at the time was out of town on business so that left me with no one to demonstrate the effects of chastity as well as other things you can to to a boy while he is chastised.

With only a few days to prep documents about chastity, hygiene, history, and even an article about a woman from London and her experience at the Athens Airport, I had to scramble to find someone that would be willing to let me play with them during the discussion as well has let other see and inspect the chastity device that he would have one as well as the e-stimulation that I am very fond of of playing with while the boy is "locked up."

At this point my experience with chastity was limited to the CB2000, the Curve, and the NeoSteel chastity belt. The NeoSteel belt, let's just say the German's know what they are doing when they made this delicious belt of stainless steel. The CB2000 and the Curve have issues where a guy being able to pull himself out of it, masturbate and somehow slip himself back into the device if it is not properly secured. The NeoSteel belt is VERY secure when it comes to chastity. You cannot slip out of it as the belt is fitted to rest on the pelvis/hip area, the penis is placed in a tube that is pressed against the groin area, and the tube is attached to a steel plate that runs from the back side to the front. Both the tube and the plate are attached to a pin that you place a special made lock on. The NeoSteel is very secure, there are openings in the anus area so the boy can relieve his bowels, as well as holes strategically placed in the steel bottom under the tube for the release of urine.

I have grown to love the NeoSteel belt with a boy we shall call SDB. The first time he wore it I learned not only does this Woman love shiny things, but she loved big polished shiny things locked on boys. The boy I was seeing at the time could not fit the belt even though it was made for him but SDB fits it and anytime he is in town he comes to visit me for an overnight stay in the belt. He will be back in August and has already been asking when I am available to put him in it. I would post pictures of him in the device but I am trying to keep this blog PG-13.

At this point I am getting desperate for someone to be my model in chastity while I give this discussion then a Q and A afterwards. I called up a friend that I would practice e-stimulation with while he was locked in a CB3000 and agreed to be my model. We will Call him Shaumburg since he is from the area.

This was the brief description that was posted for the discussion I guess I was giving. I do not remember ever agreeing to some of what was listed, but I like how a friend, who did write this, thought I was qualified for speaking on the topic.

"Surrender and Control runs throughout most BDSM activities but can there be any surrender then when you give up control over you own body?? Mistress Julie of Chicago will share her thoughts and feelings about the power exchange that occurs when you actually take control of another’s person’s body and sexual release. Mistress Julie has been involved with different facets of BDSM for the last seven years. She has spent the last three years exploring with her partner the tortures and delights associated with chastity and orgasm denial.

Mistress Julie will be discussing a comprehensive view of this exciting and foreboding area or sexuality. She will discuss different types of chastity devices, how they can be used in both an erotic manner, as well as a training tool through out a BDSM relationship. Both short and Long term chastity will be discussed, including issues of hygiene and alternative sexual play when the male is denied the right to have an orgasm. For any woman who has ever desired truly having control, or any man who has thought or fantasized what it would be like to truly surrender their body, this is one seminar not to be missed!!!! This will be both a discussion and demonstration with live model(s) so you do not want to miss your chance to truly explore this area."

Day of the discussion, a vanilla friend, we shall call her Lombard, was with me and wanted to see what this meeting was all about. Schaumburg picks us up and my bag full of goodies and printed materials for the chastity discussion. I was getting nervous, I have never had to speak to a room full of people since I was in high school and spoke in front of a college lecture hall full of people. Lombard and Schaumburg were putting the printed materials I had picked up earlier that day on all the chairs and I was preparing the "show and tell" potion of the discussion on one of the play tables.

As people started filling the seats I started to freak out. I stumbled on my words, I know I repeated myself, and in the end I was glad it was over. The question and answer part was pretty easy, most questions were on release, hygiene and travel, all things I was well aware of having traveled with the NeoSteel belt to Boston by then. The show and tell was the best part of the evening as everyone got up and looked at the different devices I had brought with me as well as toys to stimulate the prostate and keep the boy healthy when he is not allowed out of the device and masturbate.

Looking back on what I knew then and what I know now, I think I would do the discussion again and really dive into what other people are seeking out of chastity. Are you doing this to control his/her orgasms, keep him/her from cheating, curbing an over active masturbater, or taking complete control over his/her sex? I would discuss ways of teasing the submissive until they beg for release, piercings and their use with chastity devices, and figuring out which device would work the best for your submissive.

I have more experience with chastity devices now than I did back when I first held this discussion group in 2009. I get a lot of my experience playing with SDB when he is in town, but as of 07/22/2012 English Boy has sworn an oath and he will be put in chastity soon. He will be known as The British Bulldog going forward (TBB).

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    I have been in the Chicago BDSM scene for a little over 12 years. I am not serious like many people are, but I also do not take what I do lightly. I have dabbled in many kinky things and currently working on perfecting my bondage techniques. My main goal is to bring the BDSM scene to vanillas that are interested in it in a non-freaky way. This is not only a blog about what I am doing or have done but a place for you to ask questions and hopefully learn more about the scene then what you think is real in porn. Trust me, porn is not real!

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