5 Fun Ways to Get Out of Your Anti-Dating Rut

5 Fun Ways to Get Out of Your Anti-Dating Rut

Like many singles you know you want a partner to spend the rest of your life with but somehow you have fallen into a funk and you don’t have the motivation to put yourself out there anymore. Maybe you just went through a bad breakup. Or perhaps you were focused on school or your career so you have been off the dating scene for awhile. Whatever the reason, it is time to get excited about getting back on the horse. The best way to find a spouse is by dating so I’m going to give you 5 fun ways to get yourself off the sidelines and back in the game.

1.Write a list of the top 10 reasons you are awesome
The more you love yourself the easier it will be to love and be loved by another. Come up with a list of your favorite attributes from your fit physique to your ability to put others at ease. Read this list everyday in the morning before you leave the house and at night right before bed. Within a few days you will be so confident and upbeat that the idea of going out on another date won’t seem like a chore. In no time you will be bursting at the seams with excitement to share your fabulousness with prospective mates!

2. Watch romantic movies
If you’ve been watching Lifetime movies about adulterers and spouse abusers no wonder your outlook on dating is glass half empty. Or if you’ve been listening to misogynistic music about B-words, garden tools and gold diggers then of course you’re not going to be excited about meeting someone new. Instead of saturating your mind with misogyny and male bashing themes feed your subconscious with positive and healthy images of relationships. Watch the Notebook, When Harry Met Sally or even your favorite Disney movie. Society often blames the failure of relationships on people expecting everything to be like the movies. I beg to differ. I fully encourage you to revel in larger than life romance on the big screen and to day dream of meeting your own ‘Sally’ or ‘Noah.’ You are more likely to have your own happy ending if you approach dating with optimism instead of cynicism.

3. Write your own personal love story
Visualize what you want in a mate and in a relationship. What does your ideal partner look like? What are his or her key personality traits? How does he or she treat you? What kind of activities do the two of you share? Imagine your life with your partner until you can feel the warmth of his or her presence before you two even meet. If you keep the end in mind the means won’t seem so discouraging even if you do encounter a temporary rejection or disappointment. While you may have a few bad dates along the way, keep in mind that you are dating so that you can find a partner to share several years to a lifetime worth of good dates with. If you make a habit of visualizing your own love story you will stay focused on the positive. Staying positive will draw your perfect mate into your life more quickly than dreading every date you go on.

4. Treat yourself
Go to the spa for a massage and a facial.  Get a manicure or a new haircut. Afterward you will look and feel so good you’ll be dying to show off to potential suitors. Remember when you signed up for Yoga you bought new Yoga pants and an awesome new mat. Or remember when you first started golfing how excited you were to use the new golf clubs you picked out. Hit the mall and buy a new ‘date night’ outfit. If you go out and buy a new ‘uniform’ and new ‘equipment’ you’ll be more enthusiastic about going out on new dates.

5. Just do it!
The best cure for inactivity is activity. And the only way to conquer a fear is to face it. To get out of your anti-dating rut get out there and go on a date. Reactivate your online dating profile and take the initiative and write to someone that catches your eye. Set up an appointment with the professional matchmaker you have been meaning to see. Go to that upcoming singles’ event even if it’s cold outside and you think you don’t feel like it. Ask the cute regular at your local coffee shop if he or she would like to grab a bite to eat. There is no time better than the present. Get out there and show everyone what they’ve been missing!

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