You know, a lot of people want to be helpful, but really can't do anything (that they can think of) for one's job search, and, much like they might for terminal cancer patients, will offer up empty platitudes as to how they're sure you'll find something very soon.
The other day I was listening to Pandora and The Smiths' tune How Soon Is Now came on. I'd long since filed this away as “the theme song from Charmed”, and hadn't much thought about its lyrics, but this time I was listening and particularly noted:
When you say it's gonna happen "now"
well, when exactly do you mean?
See, I've already waited too long,
and all my hope is gone.
That bolded bit totally sums up where I'm at after nearly three years of unemployment … who knew that Morrissey was writing about my job search?!
As those paying attention will have noticed, I haven't posted anything in here for a couple of weeks, which was not for lack of material (I am, frankly, backed up a couple of weeks for the “link dumps”) or really for lack of time … it was just that dealing with The Job Stalker was one more trigger for depression over the job search. One of the nasty things about this particular Hell is that every time one “comes close”, be it somebody saying they might have some work for you, or scoring one of those few-and-far-between interviews (like the one I had the week before Xmas), the eventual “kick in the teeth” (as most of the time you're just getting jerked around) makes one feel like you're never going to get a job.
And, of course, being a guy with a family to support, this gets into lots of ugly corners of societal programming. When we have a “dollar store Christmas”, it's because I can't find work. When we can't afford to replace an essential piece of home equipment, it's because I can't find work. When going to McDonalds is a splurge, it's because I can't find work. And, lord knows, the fact that we've not been able to go on anything that looks like a vacation for the past 3 years is because I can't find work. It certainly doesn't help that my Wife “didn't sign up for this” … when she married me, I was a VP in a Public Relations firm, making six figures. I'm sure she never thought we'd be having to put off basic “existing” stuff because we were so broke … and so I know that, as much as she tries to be supportive of me in this insanely frustrating job search, there's something in the back of her head which sees me as big steamy pile of waste matter.
Yes, "I've already waited too long, and all my hope is gone." truer words were never sung!
Anyway, here's “this past weekend's” (although these are probably 3-4 weeks old at this point) list of useful links … hope you find them helpful:
… and, as always, these have been folded into the “Big List O'Links”, now a glorious 50-page .pdf document, which can be found here: TJS-LinkList-120120.pdf
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